Parenthood when you live with a chronic illness like IBD can make you feel anxious, worried, and uneasy. As an IBD mom of three, I often connect with and share the stories of fellow women with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis who have brought life into this world, despite their disease.
This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s we hear from a soon-to-be IBD Dad, Brad Watson-Davelaar. He was diagnosed with Crohn’s in 2001 at age 17. His name and face may look familiar, as I featured him in an article entitled: IBD Dads: What these patient heroes have to say about fatherhood. In that article, Brad was recently married and discussed his hopes for the future. Those hopes came to fruition, as he and his wife are awaiting the arrival of a baby girl in late June!
Leading up to the pregnancy, Brad was a bit scared of what fatherhood would look like while living with an unpredictable disease. Like many of us, Brad fears when his IBD will rear its ugly head again and cause him not to be as present as he wants to be, hindering his ability to be a “proper teammate” for his wife.
“Prior to my wife being pregnant, I think I was scared. I’ve wanted to be a dad for some time, but with the way my health has been over the last several years, the prospect of having kids while I was in that physical state freaked me out. Not because I didn’t want kids, but because I was worried I wasn’t going to be enough for them.”
Finding out he was going to be a dad
When Brad found out his wife was expecting he was elated. They had been trying for a few months and he was only a couple months post-op from his ileostomy and barbie butt surgery. While Brad knows life as an IBD Dad will have its ups and downs, he knows the highs will far outweigh any of the difficult days.
“I’m so thankful for Shawn, my stoma, for coming in and giving me a new lease on life. I feel ready to tackle this new chapter of our life and all that comes with it. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the beautiful.”
Since he’s lived with IBD for nearly 22 years and has been an ostomate for 6 months, Brad feels his patient journey has conditioned him to deal with the unexpected. He hopes to connect with fellow IBD dads who have paved the way before him and shown all that’s possible.
Discussing IBD with his daughter in the future
As his daughter grows up, Brad plans to be an open book about his battle with Crohn’s.
“I want to help her understand what IBD and ostomies are. Especially ostomies. It will take time, but I believe in being open and not hiding things. I want her to see that my IBD does not define me and show her how important it is to advocate for yourself.”
As Brad and his wife gear up to become a family of three, they are overjoyed and excited about the new chapter in their lives that is about to begin.
“I’ll be there to look after this wee little one, which will fill my heart with warmth. Being able to focus on her achievements will be a brilliant way to get through the rough days. In the past, it was the little things that got me through. Now, I’ll have all the little moments to continually push me.”
His wife, Sydney, feels so lucky to have Brad by her side as they experience this adventure.
“He had struggled so much over the last couple decades, especially these last couple of years and his perseverance and strength through it all makes me know that nothing is too big for him to overcome. I know he is going to be an amazing dad with so much love, nerdiness and laughter. His Crohn’s is a part of him, but his IBD does not define him. I know no matter what we can get through it together. Brad’s last surgery has definitely given him a new lease on life. With a baby on the way, his ostomy will help him be more present, active, playful, adventurous and helpful. I cannot wait to see him hold our little girl for the first time,” she said.
Raise your hand if you were told ‘diet doesn’t matter’ when you were diagnosed with IBD? Personally, the dietitian who visited me while I was hospitalized after my initial Crohn’s disease diagnosis in 2005, scared the bejesus out of me. I’ll never forget her sitting by my bedside with a clip board rattling off all the foods I would never be able to eat. Fruits, vegetables, anything raw, fried foods, wheat…the list goes on. I felt incredibly overwhelmed and defeated in that moment. Even though it was nearly 18 years ago, it’s a moment in my patient journey that is still upsetting to think about.
When Brittany Rogers, MS, RDN, CPT was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis in high school after suffering in silence for five years, she was 20 pounds underweight, exhausted, in pain, and experiencing frequent and urgent trips to the bathroom. She was put on medication and given little to no direction in the way of diet. Inspired by a nutrition class she took in high school and coupled with her own experience with trigger foods, Brittany pursued a degree in nutrition and became a registered dietitian. She strongly believes that learning about nutrition in college and applying that information to how she managed her IBD drastically changed the trajectory of her disease and quality of life.
Brittany as a teenager after her ulcerative colitis diagnosis.
The driving force behind Romanwell
Managing diet when you have IBD is complex and dietitians treating people with IBD need to be well versed in the latest research to provide safe and effective care. If you’re lucky enough to live near an IBD center, you may be able to see an IBD dietitian for a few visits through your doctor’s office. However, most people don’t have access to these centers of excellence and need more than one or two appointments per year to come up with a personalized nutrition plan to reduce their symptoms, improve their quality of life, and restore their relationship with food. Brittany’s practice, Romanwell, is tackling this issue head on by making expert IBD dietitians accessible to anyone, no matter where they live or work.
“I started Romanwell to be able to provide an exceptional level of care to people all over the country. I don’t want anyone else to suffer with symptoms the way I did for so long. Nutrition and lifestyle factors, such as stress, play a huge role in the symptoms we experience as patients. Unfortunately, people often don’t get the guidance they need to help them feel better,” said Brittany.
Diet research is quickly evolving and more and more providers are acknowledging the role of diet in managing IBD. However, there’s still a long way to go before GI’s everywhere start to refer patients to IBD dietitians routinely.
“If someone’s provider doesn’t have a referral for them, the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation has a directory of IBD providers including a number of dietitians that they can search for and reach out to. The American Gastroenterological Association (AGA) is also putting together a directory of dietitians that will make finding a GI-specific dietitian much easier. Patients can also always reach out to me and I am happy to point them in the right direction if our practice can’t meet their needs,” she explained.
The unique support of an IBD dietitian
In an ideal world, patients would get support from an IBD-focused registered dietitian starting the day they’re diagnosed. Examples of where it would be helpful to work with an IBD focused RD include:
At diagnosis, IBD dietitians can help answer questions around what they can eat, talk about the definitions of trigger foods, pro-inflammatory foods, & anti-inflammatory foods, and examples of each. They can talk about foods associated with an increased risk for active disease, foods associated with increasing the risk for colorectal cancer, and what to eat during active disease & in remission.
If someone needs IBD-related surgery, dietitians can help them optimize their nutrition before & after surgery to reduce the risk for postoperative complications.
If they’ve lost weight without trying or have a decreased appetite, they’re at risk for malnutrition and would benefit from working with an IBD focused registered dietitian.
Anytime they’re having symptoms- dietitians can help manipulate their diet to reduce symptoms & improve overall quality of life
If someone want to improve their relationship with food, or have a history or active eating disorder, Romanwell can help them expand their diet, include more cultural foods in their diet, and use non-diet evidence-based approaches to reduce symptoms. Dietitians can also help people work on improving their relationship with food, their body, and their food-related quality of life
And, anytime someone has questions about their diet, or are worried about their nutrient intake, they should have access to an IBD-focused dietitian.
“We offer programs rather than individual sessions in our practice which gives us the time to help our clients make sustainable changes to their diet and lifestyle that will last them a lifetime. We build relationships with our clients, take the time to understand their needs, cultural influences on food, food preferences, and implement 100% personalized programs that work for them in their life. 95% of our clients work with us for 12 sessions, which we typically run over 3-6 months. In the beginning of a client’s program, we deep dive into their medical history, labs, supplements, labs, diet and their relationship with food and their body, and then set goals for the end of the program. We meet weekly or bi-weekly to make progress towards the clients goals, and are available via messaging throughout the client’s program to answer any and every question that comes up in the moments when they arise.”
Those of us in the IBD community know how isolating and upsetting it is when you’re in the middle of a flare. Brittany’s goal is to ensure that every client seen at Romanwell feels seen and understood and realizes that they’re not alone in this.
“I want patients to feel as though they’re our only patient and that they’re not alone in this. We believe all patients deserve that level of responsiveness and empathetic care. We want them to feel and know that we care about them and want the best for them,” she said.
Creating evidence-based research that’s digestible for patients
When Brittany started Romanwell, she noticed that no one was talking about the research around diet and IBD on social media and translating that research and know-how into approachable and actionable content that people could easily learn from and implement in their daily lives. You may hear the term “medical nutrition therapy”—this is evidence-based diet and nutrition treatment for a specific medical condition(s) provided by a registered dietitian.
“I started publishing research summaries and tips on my Instagram pages (@weareromanwell; @brittanyb_therd) and people seem to really resonate with the content. Reading research articles is intimidating! It’s hard enough for someone with a scientific or medical background to stay on top of all the findings, let alone someone from a non-healthcare background. I try to create content that summarizes what we know (and acknowledges what we don’t) from the research and always try to find a way that someone could get immediate actionable value out of the content – be that by tips or recipes or swaps for trigger foods, etc.”
When working with clients, Brittany finds it helpful to know that oftentimes education on diet is insufficient in encouraging behavior change- instead, she’s found is that people also need help applying that information to their life.
“For instance, research suggests Crohn’s disease patients who consume the most fruit and vegetables were actually 40% less likely to flare than those who consume the least. Patients we work with often have already seen a dietitian or have received a handout on what to eat that may include this recommendation of eating lots of fruits and vegetables. And although this is great information to share with Crohn’s disease patients, sometimes it’s not very helpful because they often want to consume more fruits & vegetables, but don’t feel safe doing so because it triggers symptoms, or they’re afraid of causing a blockage,” Brittany said.
When implementing this recommendation with her clients, she shares the study, but then looks at a person’s individual diet, asks them which fruits and vegetables they enjoy, and makes a plan together with the client to slowly add in more servings week by week in a methodical manner, sometimes adjusting the texture or amount of what they are eating.
“By the end of the program, most patients are consuming at or above the recommended fruit and vegetable intake and have a huge list of meal/snack ideas they enjoy and that are tolerated so they feel confident the diet is sustainable.”
Working to improve access for patients
The key to helping as many patients as possible get access to the care they deserve is getting their GI providers to refer patients to IBD dietitians and getting health insurers to cover the cost of those services so that patients can make meaningful and sustainable changes that will benefit them for a lifetime.
“I think there’s enormous potential for providers to help their patients have better outcomes by working closely with IBD dietitians and for health insurers to lower their costs by equipping patients with the tools and resources they need to stay out of the hospital. We’re trying to make this a reality by showing that our clients do in fact have better health outcomes after completing our program. We collaborate with every client’s existing GI care team to make sure the patient is getting the support and guidance they need.”
Romanwell is also measuring their clients’ outcomes and recently presented a poster at the Crohn’s and Colitis Congress showing some preliminary results. They’re hoping to submit the results to a peer-reviewed journal later this year.
“Our goal long term is for every patient with IBD to have access to an IBD registered dietitian and for programs like ours to be covered by insurance so everyone can access them,” said Brittany.
Counseling on the complimentary role of diet and lifestyle alongside medication
There’s a tremendous amount of information out there about the pros/cons of certain medications and/or alternative approaches to treatment that can be really confusing, misleading, and scary when you’ve just been diagnosed with a lifelong chronic condition. Some people worry about the side effects of medication and want to “heal their gut” using diet alone.
“We would never judge people based on the information they’ve read or the opinions they’ve formed about what’s best for their care, but we want them to know the evidence-based information so that they can make the best decision for themselves. We want patients to feel as good as they possibly can for as long as possible, so we love it when patients use nutrition along with medication and lifestyle factors to help them feel their best. We don’t believe it has to be either diet or medication, they work beautifully together!”
Looking to the future
Romanwell recently hired a second dietitian and has plans to hire more this year and next year.
“Our goal is to be able to thoroughly train dietitians in how to deliver exceptional care in a way that really helps patients achieve their goals. Unlike the training one might receive to practice inpatient or outpatient dietetics, our training program includes aspects of health coaching, counseling, motivational interviewing, intuitive eating and a weight-neutral approach to health. Since we’re a telehealth practice, we’re able to see clients on their terms and schedule, but that also means we can hire dietitians anywhere around the country which gives us access to much more talent than we’d be able to find locally.”
Romanwell pays for dietitians to pursue licensure in a number of states, so they can see as many patients as possible.
“I can’t even describe in words how incredibly fulfilling it is to get to help others with IBD. It’s been such an honor to help IBD patients get the care they deserve. I’m so grateful I get to do this for my job!”
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