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Talking to Your Boss and Coworkers About Inflammatory Bowel Disease

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Living with IBD can be especially challenging in a professional setting. Prior to becoming a stay-at-home mom and freelance/blogger, I worked full-time for 12 years. For 10 of those years, my Crohn’s was not in remission. This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s, guidance on how to approach conversations with your boss and co-workers effectively so you can feel supported.

The more they know

Before I became self-employed, I worked at three television stations, a public affairs PR agency, and in Corporate America as a communications specialist for a natural gas utility. With each interview and onboarding process, I waited until I was hired to disclose that I had Crohn’s disease to my boss. The first week of work, in a one-on-one meeting I openly shared about my disease and tried my best to educate my boss and my team about my health. Since I did not start blogging or any patient advocacy work until 2016, there was nothing online about my journey with Crohn’s. If I were trying to get a job nowadays, I wouldn’t have that luxury since my story is publicly shared. Every single boss, all my co-workers, and each employer were extremely understanding and empathetic about my struggles. I was incredibly lucky in that regard.

While working full-time I had several hospitalizations and bowel resection surgery that kept me out of work for 2.5 months. I was grateful for bosses who were generous with sick time and that my corporate job had a solid short-term disability plan I was able to utilize.

Everyone has a different opinion about when and how to best disclose your health or disability status. While some people consider their IBD a “disability,” others do not. I’m often asked how to navigate answering that question on a job application. I personally do not consider my IBD to be a disability, but it’s understandable if you do. Answer as you see best fit and most comfortable.

Why It’s Important to Share

  • Accommodation Needs: Explaining your condition can help you receive necessary accommodations, such as flexible work hours or the ability to work from home during flare-ups. One of the major benefits of the pandemic is how it altered how we work. Back when I was in the workforce, working from home wasn’t utilized as much as an option. I had high symptom days where I worked from home once or twice every few months, but it wasn’t a weekly occurrence. Hybrid working environments or remote jobs are ideal for those with chronic illness.

The flexibility work from home jobs provide is huge—whether it’s being able to work from your couch if you’re dealing with abdominal pain and it hurts to sit at a desk, being able to work in comfortable clothes or pajamas if the fatigue makes showering a challenge, or worrying about the commute and being able to travel without a bathroom mishap or having to go multiple times in a public employee bathroom…the list can go on and on.

  • Understanding: Colleagues aware of your condition are more likely to be supportive and understanding during challenging times. One of the most important aspects of IBD to share with others who do not have our disease is the unpredictability of our health. Since we’re able to look perfectly normal on the outside, it can be difficult for an average person to fully grasp or believe the pain we’re dealing with. I remember countless days in Corporate America having to unbutton my work pants and having to tell my co-workers I was on the struggle bus. I can still envision myself on the news desk when the camera shifted to a weather segment and slumping over in pain. Everyone I worked with was aware of when I was having an “off” day. I’ve had co-workers drive me to the emergency room during the workday. I always felt supported and was never made to feel like I was less than because of my Crohn’s and for that I am still grateful.
  • Reduced Stigma: Talking openly about Crohn’s and ulcerative colitis can help reduce the stigma associated with chronic illnesses and foster a more inclusive workplace. People may question or wonder why you may have unique work accommodations, while it’s none of their business, being transparent, and really stepping up to the plate and going above and beyond when you’re able will show others that you never use your disease as an ”excuse”. If you have an infusion or a doctor’s appointment that makes you arrive late, it’s helpful to inform your boss and co-workers so they know why you may be strolling in during the middle of the day.

Preparing for the Conversation

  • Know Your Rights: Familiarize yourself with your workplace’s policies on medical conditions and accommodations. Understanding your rights under laws such as the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) can provide a framework for your discussion. Check out these tips from the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation.
  • Plan Ahead and Explain Your Needs: Choose an appropriate time and setting for the conversation. Ensure privacy and sufficient time to discuss your needs without interruptions. I always had a face-to-face conversation with my bosses, and they were appreciative of knowing. Clearly state what accommodations you need to manage your condition effectively. This could include flexible hours, a work-from-home arrangement, or having a desk closer to the restroom. Emphasize your dedication to your job and how these accommodations will help you remain productive. For example, “Having the ability to adjust my work schedule during flare-ups will help me stay on top of my responsibilities.” If I was prepping for a colonoscopy or having a scan, I let my team know.
  • Gather Information: Be ready to explain what IBD is, how it affects you, and what accommodations or support you might need. A high-level explanation is often sufficient.Your boss doesn’t need to know your entire patient journey. For example, “I have a chronic condition called Crohn’s disease/ulcerative colitis that affects my digestive system. This can sometimes cause severe abdominal pain and fatigue.”
  • Offer Solutions: Suggest practical ways to implement accommodations. For example, “During flare-ups, I could work from home and communicate via video calls and emails to stay connected with the team.” Your boss may have questions or concerns. Be prepared to address them calmly and provide any necessary documentation from your healthcare provider.

Communicating with Coworkers

You don’t need to share all the details. A brief explanation like, “I have a medical condition called Crohn’s disease/ulcerative colitis, which sometimes causes me to feel unwell,” can suffice. Explain how your condition might impact your work or interactions. For example, “There may be times when I need to step away from my desk more frequently.”

Reassure coworkers that while you have a chronic condition, you are still capable of performing your job. For example, “Most days, it doesn’t affect my work, but there might be times when I need a bit of flexibility.”

Encourage an open dialogue. Let them know they can ask questions if they want to understand better, but also respect your privacy. While I was hospitalized, I would often send an email to my team at work to provide them with a high-level update, so they heard the information from me versus someone else. For example, “Hi team! I appreciate all your well wishes. It’s been a difficult few days, but I’m hanging in there. I hope to be discharged from the hospital by the weekend and look forward to seeing you soon.”

Final Thoughts

Talking about IBD with your boss and coworkers can seem daunting, but it is a crucial step toward ensuring you have the support you need in the workplace. By being honest, clear, and proactive, you can foster a more understanding and accommodating work environment. Remember, your health and well-being are paramount, and having open discussions can help you maintain your health, while staying on top of your professional responsibilities. When interviewing for jobs, pay close attention to how an employer manages insurance benefits, short-term/long-term disability, and whether you feel like your boss and co-workers would be people you feel comfortable sharing your health struggles with. You aren’t married to your job, if you ever feel unsupported, seek employment elsewhere. Along with your boss, it’s helpful to talk with Human Resources, so you’re aware of all the medical benefits and support that is available for employees.

While IBD complicates life, I hope you continue to go after your dreams. Sure, there are going to be setbacks and roadblocks along the way, but you are worthy of whatever job or career you want to set out and do. Less than 3 months after my diagnosis, while on 22 pills a day, I landed a job 8 hours away from all friends and family and went after my dream of working in TV news. I’m proud of that and it’s a reminder that this disease doesn’t need to rob you of all you hope to be and all you hope to do. You are not a burden on employers and the sky is the limit for you.

Helpful Resources:

Employee and Employer Resources | Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation (crohnscolitisfoundation.org)

Inflammatory Bowel Disease Coverage Under the ADA (verywellhealth.com)

Navigating the workplace – My IBD Life (gastro.org)

How To Cope With Ulcerative Colitis at Work (clevelandclinic.org)

10 patient-backed tips for dealing with IBD at work – Oshi HealthCrohn’s and Work: Your Rights, The ADA, Statistics & More (healthline.com)

Working with IBD: Tips for a Successful Career

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Work life balance takes on a whole new meaning when you have chronic illness. Molly Dunham-Friel can attest to that. Diagnosed in 2012 with ulcerative colitis, one year after receiving her undergraduate degree, Molly was forced to begin her professional career with unexpected titles she was just getting accustomed to—IBD and IBS. Molly remains just as ambitious and aspirational as she was prior to her diagnosis, but undoubtedly has experienced common roadblocks that come along with living with chronic health conditions.  While the career detours were not always welcome, the experiences Molly has had over the last nine years blossomed into finding what she is truly passionate about.

This week on Light’s Camera Crohn’s we take a close look at having IBD in the workplace, whether you work in an office or at home.

Quite the Go-Getter

While IBD is unpredictable, one constant in Molly’s life has always been her go-getter attitude. She tells me she’s been known to work multiple jobs since the age of 15.

“I am not very good at slowing down and I get frustrated when anything gets in my way, including being chronically ill. The one professional aspiration that I have always held is my drive to help people in need, the marginalized, the forgotten, the invisible, the ones who truly need my help.”

Since her ulcerative colitis and IBS diagnoses, Molly has worked full-time, while often holding additional part-time jobs. At one point she was working five jobs, simply to pay for her healthcare costs! Molly says life got more complicated and extremely overwhelming once she turned 26 and could no longer be on her parents’ medical insurance

“It was stressful and defeating because now I had added pressure to hold a job that provided me with affordable medical insurance to get the care I need as a chronic illness patient. IBD is extremely expensive to manage due to the medication, procedures, doctors’ visits, labs, you name it, it costs a lot. This felt heavy as a 26-year-old still learning how the world works and how I wanted to make the world a better place.”

Molly has had to leave jobs she enjoyed to go to companies with better benefits, which also came with less satisfaction.

“I have been stuck in jobs solely because I needed the cost controlling benefits the organization offered. I have had to say no or not apply to amazing jobs and organizations because the benefits would not cover my chronic illness needs enough where I could afford it. I feel like my health insurance needs as a chronic illness warrior trump my career aspirations, which feels suffocating and leaves me frustrated. I want to do what brings me joy and not just what brings me healthcare coverage.”

New purpose, new goals

After starting her blog, Better Bellies by Molly, beginning to volunteer with the Crohn’s & Colitis Foundation, and connecting with amazing warriors via social media. Molly realized her passion for helping to support the IBD community.

“My goal is to support, educate and empower chronic illness patients, particularly those living with IBD and IBS, so they don’t feel alone, like I did upon my diagnosis. I am also passionate about helping patients feel empowered to advocate for their health. I haven’t figured out how I will turn this into my career, but blogging and social media is a great start!”

Advice for those with chronic illness nervous about working

There is no sugar coating how hard and demanding it is to work full-time on top of the full-time job of managing chronic illness life. Here is Molly’s advice:

  • No job is worth your health. Put your health first whenever you can.
  • Know your rights. IBD and IBS are both conditions listed in the American Disability Act. If you are discriminated against due to your IBD or IBS, speak to someone you trust to fight for your rights. Depending on the organization, employees with disabilities can submit formal paperwork to receive reasonable accommodation, which is any modification or adjustment to a job. Like most things with chronic illness, there is a lot of paperwork involved, but reasonable accommodation is one mechanism to look into in addition to going to HR and asking what other accommodations your employer offers.
  • Who you work for matters. Having an empathetic and compassionate boss and supervisor makes working full-time while chronically ill more enjoyable.
  • Disclose what you wish to disclose when you wish to disclose it. I currently find disclosing my disability status/medical conditions helpful so that my leadership can support me, but it took me six years to get to this level of confidence speaking about my chronic illness life. Give yourself time and grace. I have not always been met with compassion and understanding so follow your intuition and share when you feel ready. I have only held two jobs in the last 10 years where my diagnosis was discussed prior to being hired and onboarded and one of those times it was because my diagnosis related directly to the work and the other was because my advocate work made its way onto my professional resume and after sharing my story online and growing comfortable talking about it.
  • The more flexibility the better! Ask about work life balance ahead of time. It is especially hard to work an 8:30-5 job which a chronic illness because work hours directly conflict with when doctors’ offices are open and operating. Most medical facilities outside of hospitals are not open for routine or diagnostic care on nights and weekends so the more flexibility your work will allow, the better.
  • Follow your passion, even if you must detour. I have had so many career detours due to my health insurance needs and flare-ups, but I have never stopped pursing my passion for helping others, even if that meant starting something of my own outside of my full-time work.
  • Working full time is hard, working fulltime while chronically ill is harder. Juggling work alongside appointments, sick leave, flexible scheduling, and economical health benefits can be overwhelming. These can be hard to find, but as chronic illness patients we are no stranger to doing hard things.

The new perception of working from home

The pandemic has helped companies, organizations, agencies, managers, supervisors, and senior leaders recognize that so much can be accomplished and in many instances that more can be accomplished, by working from home, teleworking more often, and commuting less. It’s not surprising that companies that have pivoted into a more flexible scheduling system will be more likely to retain top talent, including us chronic illness warriors!

“I wish it didn’t take a global pandemic to teach the world that we can work from anywhere, that we can be trusted as employees and that yes more flexibility might actually make us better employees. I think the perception of working from home has drastically shifted and is no longer viewed as an “easy way out” or something that will lead to employee’s “slacking off.” However, I have realized that while many companies and leaders have made this shift, not everyone has and that there is still much room for improvement.”

Working from home benefits patients with IBD and IBS by:

  • Being able to use our own bathrooms, with our preferred toilet paper and easy access. No longer fearing if the bathroom is occupied when the moment hits.
  • Not commuting lowers stress and gives us back the time it takes to travel back and forth each day.
  • Being able to work while feeling ill is easier when in the comfort of your own home, with your blankets, heating pad and supplies to help keep your body as comfortable as possible, while also getting work done. Many times, this would not be possible in an office setting.
  • Leaving the house can be anxiety producing for those with IBD and IBS due to the often very sudden need to use the restroom. Being able to work from home can diminish that fear.
  • Having access and privacy for administering medications throughout the workday is easier done at home.
  • Allowing flexibility to work around doctor appointments, infusions, lab work, procedures, you name it.

Breaching the subject with a boss or superior

Much like the stress surrounding when to tell a love interest about your health conditions, knowing when to the tell a boss you have IBD can be worrisome as well.

Here are Molly’s tips for approaching the subject:

  • Unless an emergency is forcing you to disclose your condition, I recommend sharing when you feel comfortable to do so.
  • Begin by asking if they know what your condition is “Have you ever heard of IBD? Do you know what IBD is?”
  • Based on their answer, follow-up with education and explaining how your condition impacts your life.
  • A good supervisor will ask you how they can support you. Be prepared to ask them for what you need which might be a flexible schedule or understanding that your illness is invisible, and you are in fact a motivated and loyal employee.
  • Sharing is not for everyone, but you might be surprised who else at work is dealing with a chronic illness, bosses included.

IBD Wins in the Working World

*Having bosses who support you personally and professionally lowers stress which supports optimizing mental and physical health.

*Finding ways to unwind—whether it’s exercising, taking Epsom salt baths, or going to therapy.

*Use each professional experience to help shed light on where your passions lie. You’re constantly learning what you like, what you don’t like, and each experience helps to inform the direction your career will take.

*Celebrate all the wins—large and small.

*Be mindful of how your employer handles a hospitalization, flare up, or surgery. It’s telling to see how your work family supports you or doesn’t in times of need. Your health should always be the top priority.

*While chronic illness may hijack where you thought you would be in your career, it may help dictate what you enjoy doing.

“As chronically ill workers we need to voice our needs and push for systems to change so that we can break down barriers, make working more accessible to the chronic illness community, and to obtain and retain talented chronic illness employees.”

Key Takeaways

  • It won’t be easy, but you can do it!
  • Feel empowered to stand up for yourself.
  • You deserve to be accommodated in the workplace and it is not a weakness to have a disability or need special needs.
  • Chronically ill people belong in the workforce.
  • You can still achieve your dreams after diagnosis, they might just look different.
  • Your career path might not go according to plan, and that is ok.
  • Follow your passion and heart whenever possible.
  • Working full time isn’t the answer for everyone.
  • Give yourself grace.
  • No job is worth your health.
  • If a job is making you sicker due to stress, toxic environment, or lack of flexibility, work towards changing that situation.
  • Your aspirations, dreams, goals, and plans will shift over time. Honor where you are and how far you have come!

Connect with Molly

Instagram: @betterbelliesbymolly

Facebook: Better Bellies by Molly

YouTube: Better Bellies by Molly

Mom, Model, and Ostomate: Seeing Life Through the Lens of IBD

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When she’s not on the runway during Fashion Week or gracing magazines, Keyla is doing all she can to be an advocate for IBD. She was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis eight years ago, but this year, she found out she has Crohn’s disease.

“As a child, I always had intense stomach aches, and difficulty going to the restroom. Sometimes I’d even pass out. Doctors always told me it was constipation. It wasn’t until I was at work one day and passed out that my boss convinced me that I needed additional medical attention.”

At that point, Keyla was having 8-10 bloody bowel movements a day. Prior to ulcerative colitis, she was diagnosed with celiac disease and went on a strict gluten free diet. But unfortunately, the symptoms persisted. She got a second opinion and that’s when she was diagnosed with IBD. Keyla recalls that in the beginning moments of her patient journey she struggled to grasp that chronic illness meant her disease was a “lifelong partner” and that IBD would change her life in unimaginable ways.

The journey to an ileostomy

Fast forward two years after her IBD diagnosis and Keyla rushed to the hospital after noticing unexplained bleeding. Turns out she was hemorrhaging from her uterus and was told she had uterine cancer.

“After having a partial hysterectomy and no longer being able to have children, I’m not sure if it was the stress from everything happening but my UC was never able to be controlled after that. From failed medications like Methotrexate and Remicade to looking like Quasimodo from eye swelling caused by Entyvio and having less hair than a toddler from being on Humira. My body and I had enough. My clinical team and I decided it was time to evict my colon.”

In September 2018, Keyla began her 2-phase j-pouch procedure. Unfortunately, the surgeon discovered her colon was much more diseased than he had thought. Keyla’s colon had become fused to her stomach, resulting in part of her stomach to be removed as well.

“For 2 months I felt amazing with my ostomy and was excited for my reversal in December 2018. But shortly after, I began developing chronic pouchitis, could not gain weight, required IV fluids regularly, with a failed midline and then needed a central line. We decided to disconnect my j-pouch and create my end ileostomy in September 2020.”

All was well until January 2021 when Keyla started bleeding from her ileostomy. It was at this point she was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease and started Stelara. After a few hospital stays and some improvement with her symptoms, she began to experience an increase in rectal pain, urgency, and discomfort, so Keyla needed yet another surgery.

October 27th (less than one month ago!) she had her j-pouch removed with a proctectomy and officially made her stoma permanent. She’s recovering from this surgery as we speak.

How Modeling Came into Play

After reading that challenging medical history, you may wonder how Keyla finds the time to focus on a profession. Modeling is something Keyla always wanted to do when she was younger, but she was too embarrassed to tell anyone. She sort of stumbled into it. Keyla had done a fun photoshoot with a friend and those photos were shown to another friend who works in the fashion industry. Before she knew it, Keyla was a published model!

“Sometimes I still can’t believe I’m living my dream despite having health issues. I had the honor to walk at London Fashion Week this year and have been published in magazines out of the US, UK, and Canada.”

SURREAL Lifestyle Magazine and 4 Seasons Magazine have been her favorite features thus far because the publications have allowed her to speak about her IBD advocacy work. Modeling serves as the perfect platform for spreading awareness to others about ostomies and life with Crohn’s. 

“I always try to take the time for myself and make sure I am doing the things my mental health needs to stay focused and feel well. I also try to own those feelings. If I’m symptomatic, I try to accept it and openly communicate my struggles with others.”

Keyla says having an ileostomy can make modeling a bit more complicated, especially if she has to wear form fitting or tight clothing. If that’s the case, she ends up having to empty her bag more times than she really needs to. She’s grateful her modeling gigs have followed strict COVID guidelines, which helps her feel more at ease during these uncertain times.

When a project allows, she especially enjoys getting to show her ostomy in photos or on the runway. She chalks that up as her biggest career win of all!

A model mother

Keyla’s main focus whether she’s modeling or fighting a flare in the hospital is her family. She has an 11-year-old son who inspires and motivates her to push through the difficult days.

“IBD has made motherhood challenging. Without chronic illness motherhood can be difficult as it is, adding health issues on top of it makes it more complicated. I constantly question whether I’m making the right choices. But I also tell myself all I can do is try and hope that I’m being a good role model for him.”

It pains her to see how her son gets anxious about her IBD and healthcare. He’s been by her side every step of the way since she was diagnosed after he was born. Despite the highs and lows, Keyla feels her son is stronger because of her illness and has an innate sense of empathy and understanding for others.

If her IBD has taught her anything it’s that good days give us happiness and bad days give us experience. Modeling has enabled Keyla to be comfortable in her own skin and live the life she imagined long before Crohn’s was ever a part of who she was.

Connect with Keyla:

Instagram: Keyla.ic

Twitter: @keyla.ic