Summer is officially here and while the sun and break from school and a routine is welcomed by many, the shift in schedules can be a struggle for parents with chronic illness. As a mom with Crohn’s disease with kids ages 7, 5, and almost 3, some days are easier than others on me. Even though I’ve been a stay-at-home mom and freelancer since my first child was born in March 2017, it’s a lot to juggle when every day can feel like Groundhog Day and when you get little to no breaks from mom or dad life. This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s some tips for navigating the summer months, when school is out and everyone is home, looking to be entertained and fed snacks around the clock.
Dealing with the unique challenges
Mom and Dad guilt can feel like it’s reaching epic proportions when you go on social media as a chronic illness parent and see all the daily adventures and trips other families are posting about. When fighting fatigue and coping with pain, making those efforts with kids can feel like an uphill battle. You want to be present and do all the things and make all the core memories, but it can be extremely difficult and exhausting physically and emotionally when you aren’t feeling well and trying to do it all in the heat of summer. The combination of managing a chronic illness and the increased demands of having children home from school can be overwhelming. However, with some careful planning and strategies, IBD parents can navigate the summer months more smoothly.
I try and remind myself that whether we have an adventure-filled day or a day at home playing in the backyard and having popsicles, my kids are having fun. It’s ok to have an “old-fashioned” summer, hanging out with the neighborhood kids and playing outside. Now that my youngest is about to turn 3 in July, I feel like I’m in a sweet spot this summer where I don’t need to lug the stroller and a diaper bag everywhere we go.
Tips for Managing IBD During Summer
Plan Ahead:
Summer Camps: Prior to summer and even during, I try and sign up my older two for camps and activities that I think they’ll enjoy. So far this summer, my kids have done soccer camps, volleyball camp, dance camp, and Vacation Bible School. Most of the camps are only 2-4 hours, but even having one child entertained helps ease the dynamic back at home. At the same time, I try not to overschedule camps, because it can be stressful to try and get everyone out of the house by 8 am and all the drop-offs and pick-ups can make some days stressful and overbooked. There’s a delicate balance!
Activities: Choose activities that align with your energy levels. Opt for outings that require less physical exertion or allow for breaks. Having a game plan ahead of time, and keeping it to yourself rather than getting your kids excited and then not being able to deliver on the promise is key.
Backup Plans: Have a backup plan for days when your symptoms are more severe. This could include indoor activities, quiet time, or arranging for help from friends or family.
Communicate with Your Children:
Honesty: Age-appropriate honesty about your condition can help children understand your limitations. Explain why you may need to rest or take breaks.
Involvement: Involve older children in planning activities and chores. This can lighten your load and teach them responsibility.
Create a Support System:
Family and Friends: Don’t hesitate to ask for help. Whether it’s babysitting, meal preparation, or just lending an ear, a support system is crucial. I find it a lot easier when I go on playdates with other moms and my kids can be entertained with their kids. Having downtime to talk with adults (or even be out of the house and in the same vicinity as other moms and dads) is a breath of fresh air. I’ve even see moms post about simply going for a drive to get everyone out of the house.
IBD Community: Connect with other IBD parents through support groups or online forums. There’s solidarity and understanding on social media and so many people living your reality. While summer is fun, it’s also a lot to get acclimated to when you are used to having children in school.
Utilize Resources:
Apps and Tools: Use health management apps to track symptoms, medication, and appointments. Parenting apps can help organize activities and chores. Chances are there are people in your town or city with accounts that highlight the best parks, pools, and activities to check out in the summer months. I follow a bunch of St. Louis parenting accounts and save or screenshot reels or posts so I have ideas of places I can take my kids that are “mom-approved”.
Professional Help: Don’t hesitate to consult your healthcare provider for advice on managing IBD during the summer. They may suggest adjustments to your treatment plan.
Prioritize Self-Care:
Rest: Make time for rest even amidst the chaos of summer activities. Create a schedule that includes downtime to help manage fatigue and reduce stress.
Diet: Stick to a diet that works for you. Avoid foods that trigger flare-ups, and keep healthy snacks readily available.
Hydration: Summer heat can exacerbate IBD symptoms. Drink plenty of water to stay hydrated. I never leave home without water for myself and my kids.
Stay on top of your health: Summer is not a break from doctor appointments, lab work, scans and scopes. Make sure you don’t let your IBD management go by the wayside. Unfortunately, we can never take a break or vacation from keeping tabs on our disease.
Activities and Coping Strategies
Indoor Activities:
Crafts and Games: Keep a stash of craft supplies and board games for days when going out isn’t feasible. Some days it’s just too hot to go outside. Hitting up the DollarStore or Hobby Lobby can be helpful for picking up easy crafts when you’re in a pinch.
Reading and Movies: Create a cozy reading nook or have a movie marathon with your kids. It’s ok to have slow, snuggle days. I try not to beat myself up about screen time when I’m feeling overwhelmed or need a chance to breathe. A trip to the library with the kids is always a nice reprieve from the heat and then you can return home, snuggle and read together.
Outdoor Fun:
Parks and Beaches: Choose locations with amenities like bathrooms and shaded areas. Bring a comfortable chair or blanket to rest. I love packing lunches or picking up food on the way to the park and having a picnic with my kids. I also brought one of those trendy snack containers off Amazon with the different dividers for snacks, and that’s a great way to save on having to buy food while you’re out and about. Splash pads are also great so that kids can burn off energy and get refreshed, without you having to keep a close eye with them in a pool or having to get in yourself.
Mindfulness and Relaxation:
Yoga, Meditation, and walks: Incorporate gentle yoga or meditation into your routine. These practices can help manage stress and improve overall well-being. After dinner, when the temperatures begin to drop, it’s a great time to take a solo walk outside, if your partner can stay back with the kids or ask friends to join you. It’s nice to decompress and get steps in, without having to deal with the sweltering sun.
Quiet Time: Speaking of quiet time for you, establish a daily quiet time where everyone in the household engages in calm activities, giving you a chance to recharge. It’s difficult for me to find quiet time these days, but I try and decompress after bedtime at least.
Final thoughts
Managing IBD while parenting during the summer requires a blend of planning, self-care, and support. By prioritizing your health and setting realistic expectations, you can create a summer that is enjoyable for both you and your children. Remember, taking care of yourself is not only beneficial for you but also sets a positive example for your kids. In moments of high stress, where my kids are not getting along, I try and remind myself that someday I’ll look back on these times as the good old days.
One of the main challenges and worries women face when it comes to pregnancy and IBD is feeling comfortable and confident staying on their medication. The first-ever Global Consensus Conference on Pregnancy and IBD was held during Digestive Disease Week (May 2024) and part of the discussion focused on the latest recommendations for medication during pregnancy and lactation. Last week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s we covered the global guidance regarding pre-conception counseling and family planning.
Hear from the co-chairs of the Global Consensus Conference and esteemed gastroenterologists, Dr. Uma Mahadevan and Dr. Millie Long about what they want the IBD community to know about medication during pregnancy and postpartum.
The latest recommendations for IBD women
All biologics can be continued through pregnancy and lactation
5ASA can be continued
Thiopurines can be continued, but monitor liver enzymes for intrahepatic cholestasis of pregnancy
S1P agents and JAK inhibitors should be avoided in pregnancy unless there is no other viable alternative
Biosimilars are equally safe to originator drugs (biologics) in pregnancy
Wound healing after C-section/episiotomy: Thiopurines delayed wound healing with episiotomy, but there’s no impact of biologics on wound healing with C-section, tear, episiotomy
These recommendations were voted on and determined by more than 50 medical providers and IBD patient advocates from around the world. The hope is that this guidance will leave couples feeling empowered and more comfortable in their decision to stay on medications that are deemed low risk.
“We have learned that there are many different practice patterns in various locations globally regarding treating women with IBD during pregnancy. The goal of this Global Consensus was to have a consistent, evidence-based framework for management of pregnant women with IBD that will improve the quality of care globally. Most importantly, treating inflammation and continuing appropriate medications (such as biologics) improves outcomes for both mom and baby,” said Dr. Millie Long.
When I was pregnant with my children, I trusted what my care team (GI, OB, and Maternal Fetal Medicine doctors) told me regarding Humira and the risk versus benefit of staying on my medication through pregnancy and after. I credit my medication for keeping my Crohn’s under control while I carried my babies and after I brought them into this world. But I’m going to be honest—when you are 36 weeks pregnant and you feel the baby kicking and moving as you’re about to do your injection, it can feel emotional. At the same time, I always told myself I was doing what was best for me and for them. Now that my kids are 7, 5, and almost 3 (all perfectly healthy), I am reminded every day that I made the right choice for our family.
Handling the hesitations
Dr. Mahadevan says when patients come to her worried about staying on their medication while they are pregnant, she discusses the “very clear data” that shows disease activity is the strongest predictor of pregnancy complications.
“This includes having difficulty conceiving, higher miscarriage rates, higher complications of pregnancy, including pre-term birth. Pre-term birth has a strong correlation with reduced socioeconomic status and other issues later in life. Plus, if women are so sick and worn out by their IBD, they aren’t able to enjoy their new baby and struggle to take care of their child as well as they would like to. For medications like monoclonal antibody, where there is good safety data, it really makes sense to continue.”
“Women should stay on biologics during pregnancy without any alteration when they are pregnant. This reduces the risk of flare during and post pregnancy for the mom and improves outcomes for the baby. The strongest predictor of pre-term delivery (and the complications arising from this), is active inflammation,” said Dr. Long.
Clinical trials in pregnancy and drug safety rely on observational data. There are no randomized trials where one person is chosen to get therapy, and another is not.
“This is where the PIANO study and other such prospective (where we follow patients before we know the outcome) registries are so important. We can collect data quickly… as soon as a medication is approved for use. We also get data from large population datasets from countries such as France, where all patients are registered, and their outcomes can be collected. This takes longer but will have much larger numbers,” explained Dr. Mahadevan.
All three of my kids were part of research studies while in utero and after. My youngest who turns three in July was part of the PIANO study. I can’t say enough about the importance of contributing to research and helping to pave the way for future IBD families. We have the guidance we have today because of all the moms who took it upon themselves to be a part of studies like PIANO.
Biosimilars in pregnancy
As more and more patients are switched from a biologic to a biosimilar, there’s a great deal of interest in how this impacts family planning and pregnancy.
A total of 89 pregnant women with IBD enrolled in PIANO on Infliximab were included as part of a study presented at Digestive Disease Week entitled, “Use of Biosimilars to Infliximab During Pregnancy in Women with Inflammatory Bowel Disease: Data from the PIANO study” that Dr. Long and Dr. Mahadevan were a part of.
In the study, 76 women were on the originator drug (Infliximab/Remicade), while 13 women were on an Infliximab biosimilar.
“Though this study is small, Europeans noted that they did not differentiate between biosimilar and originator in their studies. There were no difference in clinical characteristics or significant differences in any pregnancy complications between the two groups. Developmental milestones were assessed at 12 months, with no differences in communication, fine motor, gross motor, personal/social interaction, or problem solving between groups,” said Dr. Mahadevan.
This data and ongoing research can reassure mothers with IBD on biosimilar IFX who wish to pursue pregnancy.
Avoiding S1P agents and JAK inhibitors in pregnancy
For those who don’t know—S1P agents and JAK inhibitors include: Ozanimod (Zeposia), Tofacitinib (Xeljanz) and Upadacitinib (Rinvoq).
If you’re currently taking one of these medications and finally have your IBD under control, it can be daunting to know what to do next for family planning.
“It is a case-by-case situation .In general, we would like to avoid these agents as, unlike with biologics which are antibodies, these agents are pills and cross the placenta during the first trimester during a key time in the baby’s development,” said Dr. Mahadevan. “Animal studies have shown harm with supratherapeutic (higher than human doses) levels of drug. Upadacitinib (Rinvoq) had birth defects in animals even at human doses. For S1Ps, usually there is another effective medicine patients can try. An exception may be if they also have multiple sclerosis as S1Ps are used to treat both conditions. For jak inhibitors, they are often the only effective therapy for a patient. We will discuss the risks, the benefits, and the options – using a surrogate, etc.”
Lactation considerations
The benefits of breastfeeding are similar in IBD and non-IBD moms.
“We do not have robust data that breastfeeding will specifically reduce the risk of IBD in offspring, but there are many studies in the general population that demonstrate that breastfeeding is beneficial to infants. The choice to breastfeed is an individual one, and it is important to support each family’s decision,” said Dr. Long.
Breastfeeding research is more challenging than pregnancy studies, as this is not collected in medical records or large databases.
“Breastfeeding research is data from registries like PIANO and individual studies from different IBD centers, which measure transfer in breastmilk and outcomes,” said Dr. Mahadevan.
She went on to say that breastfeeding is allowed on thiopurines, and there should be low to no risk to the infant.
“Ideally, if the mother can wait four hours, there is no drug transferred, but even earlier the amount that is transferred is very low,” explained Dr. Mahadevan.
As an IBD mom who fed each of my babies differently, I want to reiterate that whether you choose to breastfeed or not is a personal decision and you are not less than or a failure if you need to supplement or formula feed. Juggling chronic illness, postpartum, and motherhood is a lot. Give yourself grace and trust your child will thrive no matter how they are fed.
My oldest was only breastfed for three days because I wasn’t well-versed about the data regarding biologics and breastfeeding and because I was nervous about flaring and not being able to feed my baby. I breastfed my middle child for 6 months while supplementing, and my youngest was exclusively breastfed 14 months—all while on Humira. Your journey and your experience are personal to you. Try not to allow outside or societal pressure to contribute to your guilt as an IBD mom.
Gaps and strides in IBD research Dr. Long says we need more data on the safety and efficacy of novel small molecules during pregnancy.
“This includes medications like tofacitinib, Upadacitinib, Etrasimod and ozanimod. This is why registries like PIANO are so important, to capture this information and inform patients and providers alike. Some of the strides being made in IBD pregnancy research include the effectiveness of pre-conception counseling, novel assessments of disease activity during pregnancy (such as intestinal ultrasound), data on novel biologics during pregnancy and lactation (including newly approved therapies such as Risankizumab or Mirikizumab) and data specifically on biosimilars. Through this data and the Consensus recommendations, we can improve pregnancy outcomes for many women with IBD,” said Dr. Long.
The overall hope is that the Global Consensus Conference recommendations will provide women with IBD all over the world with consistent and evidence-based care prior to, during, and post pregnancy.
When you live with a disease like Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis, family planning takes thought and special consideration. The first-ever Global Consensus Conference on Pregnancy and IBD was held during Digestive Disease Week (May 2024) and part of the discussion focused on the latest recommendations for pre-conception counseling and family planning. This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s hear from Dr. Uma Mahadevan who co-chaired the conference, along with Dr. Christopher Robinson, a maternal fetal medicine specialist. As an IBD mom of three kids and the patient lead for the United States on this initiative, I’m excited to start sharing the latest guidance for our community.
The latest recommendations for IBD women
Couples should get pre-conception counseling.
Remission prior to conception for at least 3-6 months with objective evidence of remission.
All women with IBD should be followed as high-risk pregnancies (however that monitoring works in each country)
Pregnant women should take low dose aspirin daily by 12-16 weeks gestation to avoid preterm pre-eclampsia.
These recommendations were voted on and determined by more than 50 medical providers and IBD patient advocates from around the world. They are the gold standard, and the hope is that the recommendations help clear up the gray area and bring clarity to couples who are planning to grow their family and wanting to conceive.
“Our goal was to have a universal guideline that was the same worldwide. This would reduce confusion and avoid the default of just not giving women appropriate therapy. The Consensus really tried to advise what we, as pregnancy in IBD experts, do with our patients, so that women everywhere can have the same high level of care,” said Dr. Mahadevan.
Considerations for women prior to conception
Dr. Mahadevan says when a woman starts medication, she generally tells her whether it is a compatible with pregnancy or not.
“I also tell them when they are ready to consider conception to meet with me first. So generally – the education and family planning discussions should start before you are even ready to consider pregnancy. For couples, they should give their GI a 6-month window ideally to make sure there is remission, a chance to optimize medication, and get any testing done that is needed.”
Personally, I had bowel resection surgery in August 2015 while I was engaged. We knew our wedding was in June 2016, and following the surgery I reached remission for the first time in a decade, so timing was of the essence. I told my GI at a post-op appointment in November 2015 that we were planning to start trying for a baby right after our wedding. Knowing that, she put me on a prescription prenatal and folic acid to start prepping my body for pregnancy, I also had a colonoscopy the month prior to my wedding to confirm I was in remission.
Recovering in the hospital after my bowel resection surgery, with hopes of one day being a mom.
Dr. Mahadevan recommends patients start 1 mg of folic acid daily when she learns they are considering conception.
“The prenatal with iron can be bothersome to some patients so I wait for the OB to start that. I check Vitamin D, B12, and iron labs to make sure those are all good.”
Dr. Christopher Robinson, MD, MSCR, Charleston Maternal Fetal Medicine says preconception care is an excellent way to plan out a pregnancy path.
He went on to say, “We recognize that the best outcomes are achieved when preconception care is employed prior to conception for optimization of disease management. This is especially true of IBD where there can be a number of misconceptions about safety of medications and goals for nutrition and surveillance of the pregnancy. Thus, I would recommend preconception counseling and establishing a care plan with Maternal Fetal Medicine early in pregnancy (first trimester).”
What does pre-conception counseling entail
Preconception counseling can be extensive. You should expect to go through an entire healthcare maintenance checklist of the following:
Checking labs—vitamin levels, sometimes drug levels
Updating vaccines
Cancer screenings—pap smear, colonoscopy if appropriate
Ensuring the patient is in remission which may require a colonoscopy, intestinal ultrasound or other imaging
Making sure medications are compatible with pregnancy
Reviewing prior pregnancy and if there were complications
Discussing mode of delivery, referring to a Maternal Fetal Medicine doctor prior to pregnancy if prior complications or if a woman is extremely high risk (for example, prior blood clots), has an ostomy, or if there is evidence of malnutrition or difficulty with weight gain.
Discuss starting aspirin at week 12 and set up a visit schedule with your GI, as you’ll generally see them once per trimester.
I had four pregnancies—three healthy, full-term babies and one miscarriage. As soon as I found out I was pregnant I alerted my GI. From there I set up an appointment with my “regular” OB for the initial ultrasound at 8-10 weeks, and then moving forward I had monthly ultrasounds with a maternal fetal medicine doctor, appointments with my GI each trimester, and the regularly scheduled in-office visits with my OB. Even though I had flawless pregnancies each time (aside from the baby I lost around 7 weeks), I was considered “high risk” because of my history of Crohn’s disease and prior surgery.
I had three scheduled c-sections, not because I had perianal Crohn’s, but because my care team allowed me to decide what I felt most comfortable given my health history. If I could do it all over again, I’d do it all the same. I appreciated the extra surveillance for my children and for me, healed beautifully after each abdominal surgery, and was grateful that by staying on Humira until 39 weeks with my first child and 37 weeks with my younger children, I maintained my remission throughout pregnancy and after.
Dr. Robinson said while each pregnancy has specific needs, in general he also follows pregnancy with serial growth checks every 4 weeks across pregnancy (following the targeted anatomic scan).
“It is possible, if a patient has longstanding, well controlled disease, and an optimum prior pregnancy outcome history, to check a 32- and 36-week ultrasound for growth. However, in the first pregnancy, I agree with serial growth scans.”
What remission before pregnancy really looks like
Remission is often a difficult word to define when it comes to living with IBD. As Dr. Mahadevan tells me, “Not everyone can achieve complete remission.” So, what are doctors looking for and what should your target be?
“We are looking to give moms-to-be the best chance at conceiving, keeping the pregnancy, and having a health pregnancy. I like to see normal labs, normal calprotectin, normal colonoscopy, and imaging without visible inflammation. Not everyone can achieve this, but that is the ideal three to six months prior to conception,” explained Dr. Mahadevan.
“IBD has both genetic and autoimmune underlying components that can interfere with development of the placenta and affect maternal nutrition across pregnancy. In these cases, optimization of disease management can improve care and reduce risk for both mother and fetus. The goal of interventions is to reduce the risk for mother and infant through coordinated care with GI, MFM and OB/Gyn in pregnancy,” said Dr. Robinson.
Stay tuned to Lights, Camera, Crohn’s next week when the latest recommendations for IBD medication in pregnancy and lactation is disclosed. A full manuscript with all the recommendations and guidance is in the works, with hopes of the information being publicly available by the end of this year. I’ll be working on the companion piece for the manuscript dedicated specifically to the patient community.
Kids are more intuitive than we tend to give them credit for. They are always watching us and even before they’re able to speak in sentences they have an innate sense of empathy and understanding. As an IBD mom of three, whose kids are almost 7, 5, and 2.5, I’ve started to think more lately about how to explain my Crohn’s disease to them in a way that will educate them, without scaring them. It can be a difficult balance.
I know my older two know mama gives herself shots, often needs to run to the bathroom, and gets “tummy aches” but I haven’t yet dropped the term “Crohn’s” or “disease” to them quite yet. It can be hard to explain and sometimes when I start trying to share more, I feel like it’s still going over their heads. Their concerned eyes when I’m in pain and how they watch me do my Humira injections is a reminder to me that they are aware something is going on. As we potty train my youngest, he commends himself for going on the potty by saying he’s “just like mama” …ah, what a great analogy!
This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s hear from several IBD parents about how they transparently communicate their experiences with Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis. It can be a fine line educating and being open, while also trying not to overwhelm and scare kids. I’ve found it extremely helpful tapping into the community and gaining input from others and I hope you do, too!
Helpful Guidelines for Navigating the conversation with your kids
Choose the right time. Pick a time when you won’t be interrupted and can focus on the conversation. Ensure it’s a moment when you and your children are feeling calm, at ease, and open to discussion. My recommendation as an IBD mom would be to have this conversation on a “feel good” day—rather than when you’re flaring or in the hospital.
Prepare yourself. Decide in advance how much detail you want to share based on your child’s age and maturity level. IBD is complicated, be ready for a range of emotions including sadness, fear, and even anger.
Use age-appropriate language. Explain your IBD in a way that is understandable to your child. Avoid using confusing or technical terms. For younger kids, it might be helpful to compare your illness to something they already understand.
Be honest but reassuring. You can be transparent and truthful, but also reassure them about all you do to manage and control your IBD. Empathize with the aspects of your daily life that won’t change, to provide them with a sense of stability and comfort.
Focus on practical impacts. Explain how your IBD might affect your daily routine or activities with them in a straightforward way. Use examples such as—“Mommy’s Crohn’s can be unpredictable, I may say we’re going to the park, but then I don’t feel well so we have a movie date and snuggle instead and plan to go to the park another day.”
Encourage questions. Allow your children to ask questions and express their feelings and know this will be an ongoing conversation throughout life. Go into the conversation without expectations. It’s ok to admit if you don’t have all the answers. You can explore some of the questions together.
Provide continuous support. Let your kids know that it’s okay to have and express their feelings about your IBD. Offer them ongoing support and reassurance. Let them know they can always come to you with questions or concerns at any time.
Seek support when needed. Consider enlisting the help of a therapist or a counselor, especially if you or your children are struggling to cope. Joining support groups and tapping into the online patient community and connecting with fellow IBD families in similar situations can be beneficial.
Keep the conversation going. Check in with your children regularly about your IBD and how you’re feeling. Be casual about it. Share when you see an opportunity to teach or calm fears that your kids may be internalizing.
Highlight the positives. While acknowledging the challenges, also focus on the positive aspects, such as the strength of your family unit or the support you have from friends and community. I always tell my kids when I’m doing my injection that mommy is strong, and we can all do hard things.
By approaching the conversation with honesty, sensitivity, and openness, you can help your children understand and cope with your chronic illness in a healthy way.
My 2-year-old trying to make me smile during a rough day in the bathroom.
IBD as a family disease
There’s a common saying in our community that IBD is a family disease, in that whether you have Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis or not, if someone in your nuclear family has it, the disease impacts your living experience in some way.
Emily and her husband have IBD and so do their three daughters, so discussions about IBD are frequent in their home since it’s a living reality for all five of them. She tells me the conversations tend to fall in one of the following categories:
1) Explanations of IBD details, procedures, surgeries, or diet needs for a member (or members) of the family.
2) Discussions to calm anxieties in one child about the presentation of IBD in themselves or in another family member.
She says the second category tends to be the more challenging conversations, by far.
“In the first category, we tend to stick to factual, age-appropriate explanations. For example, when our five-year-old needed to know about scopes and surgeries, we explained that a specific family member has “belly problems” and the doctor is helping by taking pictures of their belly and fixing the parts that were causing trouble,” explained Emily.
As the girls have gotten older, Emily says they add details about how the doctors do different procedures – always led by their child’s level of interest and desire for the knowledge.
“We are always honest about pain or discomfort related to medical procedures. Many things are NOT painful, and we want them to trust us that something does not hurt if we tell them. This has served us well. When surgery was needed for one daughter, we discussed how she would be sore afterwards, but we had ways to help the pain until it would subside. This was undoubtedly a challenging time for us, but our daughter did amazing,” Emily said.
As Emily’s girls have gotten older, as a preteen and teen, they understand more about their parents,’ and their own, IBD. They have lived through surgeries and many medical procedures in their family. Emily says now the more challenging conversations have started, related to knowing the possibilities around IBD.
“For example, I had a colon perforation following a routine monitoring scope for my IBD. It was a rare event that we are all warned about prior to a colonoscopy. It resulted in a more significant repair surgery and several days in the hospital. My daughters are old enough to realize that they also have scopes regularly and we had to have some discussions about the chance that the same thing could happen to them. It was challenging for our family for a few rounds of scopes!”
Emily says they addressed this topic mostly by focusing on the “helpers” as the iconic Mr. Rogers would! Yes, bad things can happen, but she reminded her daughters that they are so lucky to have doctors and medical professionals to “fix” these problems. She reminds them that they are lucky to have family and friends to help when they are not feeling well. She also talks about how they are lucky to have each other – who understand the ups and downs of this disease.
“This narrative has gotten our family through many challenges! I talk with my oldest daughter much more now about the details of her IBD. She is a teen and has had more than her fair share of IBD troubles. She has watched me deal with my challenges too. We are open with each other about the negative parts, and our frustrations having to deal with IBD. It is a double-edged sword to have her growing up! On the one hand – I hate that she is old enough to really understand the negatives. But she is also turning into an amazing young woman who is one of my closest confidants with this disease. We understand each other’s highs and lows like most cannot. We supported each other in challenging times and celebrate together for each win!”
Sari says she bought a couple of children’s books that feature a caregiver with chronic illness.
“One of them is titled ‘Some days’…it’s about a mom with multiple sclerosis, but it works for IBD, too. It goes over how some days are more exciting and others are simpler more restful days. If there are other kids’ books people have found, I’d love to hear about them!”
Kate also has a book by someone with Crohn’s, but says they’ve also always been very honest and open about it with her son.
“I always worried he would tell people too much, but I’ve found he’s incredibly respectful and it has made me feel less shame in my body because I talk to him so positively about it. Especially the perianal disease, which has been really hard to talk about with people. My son is six and understands my immune system attacks my digestive tract. We also have a puzzle of the body we have played with for years and he knows the colon, intestines, rectum, etc. because of that.”
Becca says one of her favorite memories as an IBD mom is when her daughter was learning body parts and said, “Mommy and I have vulvas, Daddy has a penis, Daddy and I have butts, and mommy has a bag!” She also often asks to see her “cut” on my belly (c-section scar), but I constantly remind her that she shares her “cut” with a lot of intestine.”
Becca also says for the longest time her daughter thought that EVERY mom gets an ostomy bag when they’ve had a baby.
“She didn’t realize I had mine for four years before she was born!”
As an IBD Dad, Brandon said he stumbled upon a video series when his son was around age five that provided a solid explanation. At the time his son had a broken arm.
“The video explained people have booboos you can’t see. I explained that I had what the girl in the video has. Nowadays, I show both my boys’ photos from my colonoscopies.”
You can watch the video Brandon showed his son here.
Here are additional books about chronic illness that others have recommended:
When you’re diagnosed with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis it’s a lot to process. When I started this blog in 2016 and after living with Crohn’s for nearly 19 years, my focus has always been to be the voice I needed to hear upon diagnosis and what it was like to experience young adulthood with a chronic illness. As a 21-year-old, fresh out of college, I had to navigate my career, finding love, and becoming a mom with IBD on my own. The first decade I wasn’t publicly sharing my story and didn’t know there was a patient community to tap into online for support.
The first week I started experiencing Crohn’s symptoms-March 2005, Senior Spring Break in the Bahamas
Often as the years go by and we get beyond the initial shock of hearing the news and what this means for our lives, we tend to forget the challenges we faced to gain our footing. This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s I share some tokens of knowledge I’ve gained along the way that I hope will help you on your own journey, no matter where you find yourself at this moment.
Healing—physically, mentally, and emotionally is not linear. We all experience IBD uniquely—some people’s disease course is milder, others have it severe. We all cope differently with knowing and living with a chronic illness. Give yourself grace in the difficult moments. It’s ok to feel resentment or anger. It’s understandable to wonder at times “why me.” It’s “normal” to feel scared and anxious whether you’re a few weeks or a few decades in. Sometimes it’s taking things one hour at a time, other times it’s taking them one day at a time. Because of how quickly a flare up can strike, I try to live in the now and not worry about tomorrow.
You didn’t have control of getting your chronic illness, but you can control how you react and choose to heal from it. It’s easy to feel like you may be to blame if your health takes a turn for the worse. But understand this is not your fault. The unpredictability of IBD makes it feel like we’re often in the passenger seat and spiraling in circles, but this disease cannot control how you react, respond, and choose to heal from it. No matter what, you’re in control of the healing process. Whether it’s finding support through fellow patients and caregivers or through professional therapy, you won’t look back and you’ll be setting yourself up to take this on to the best of your ability.
There is no comparison game. Since the majority of people are diagnosed with IBD in their teens and into their 30s, it can be easy to try and measure your timeline and accomplishments to that of your peers who do not have chronic illness. It can also be tempting to look at people in the patient community who seem to have the world by the tail, when you’re struggling to get out of bed each day. This isn’t a competition of the sickest or a ploy to see who can smile through the pain and get more done. The only person you need to answer to, is who you see looking back in the mirror. You determine what you’re capable of and what you want in life. Your roadmap is yours and you’re right where you’re meant to be.
You set the benchmark for what’s possible. Your IBD is part of you, but it’s not your entire identity. Remember that even patient advocates are posting somewhat of a highlight reel. Even those who are working, in love, and parenting are dealing with their own struggles, too. My best advice would be to think about what you hope for in life (don’t even think of your IBD as part of the equation) and go after it. Yes, your health may cause some detours and roadblocks, but you won’t find your way unless you try.
No one knows your body better than you. I don’t care how many letters someone has after their name, they aren’t living in your body and experiencing what you feel each moment of every day. Be vocal when you need to be. Communicate as much as you can with your care team and paint the clearest picture of your reality. If you keep parts of your struggles to yourself or dumb down the severity of your day-to-day life, the only person you’re hurting is yourself. Learn about nutritional bloodwork and advocate for yourself to be tested for a full iron panel with Ferritin and Vitamin D. Get labs every 3-4 months so you can keep a finger on the pulse of what’s going on with your body. If you feel like your provider is being lackadaisical, don’t hesitate to get a second opinion. Take ownership of your health and find a provider who in your darkest moments you would feel most comfortable by your bedside in the hospital.
Make sure your GI specializes in IBD. There are gastroenterologists and there are gastroenterologists who specialize in Crohn’s and ulcerative colitis. Once you’re diagnosed with IBD, it’s imperative you try to find a GI who is an IBDologist. This can be tricky if you live in a rural area, it may mean you need to travel several hours to find a provider who fits the bill. If you move or are unsure of a good GI to check out, it’s helpful to reach out to your local Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation chapter and often they can help point you in the right direction.
Diet and stress levels matter. Read that again. Any doctor who tells you diet, and stress doesn’t impact your disease process is wrong. There are incredible registered dietitians throughout the US who specialize in IBD, and many of them have IBD themselves! Before you start restricting yourself or your child, make an appointment—most provide virtual options and this will help you get educated on what works best for you. What is a trigger for one person, isn’t necessarily a trigger for another. There isn’t a one-size-fits-all diet or else we would all do it.
Emotions will strike when you least expect them. Even almost 19 years in, I’ll sometimes break down and cry when I think about my Crohn’s or how it makes me feel. Just because you become a veteran patient doesn’t necessarily mean you fully ever heal from the hurt life with a chronic illness causes. It’s ok to have these moments where you may feel like you’re allowing your disease to control your emotions, you’re not. You’re human. It’s healthy to feel frustrated and to get emotional about what your life is like because you have IBD.
You’ve endured more than you give yourself credit for. As chronic illness patients we go through so much that often we don’t even bat an eye over experiences that would be extremely painful or stressful to the average person. Think about what a bad ass you are and how that carries over into each and everything you do in life. If you’re newly diagnosed you will get there—but even those initial weeks and months, you’re enduring more than the people who have their IBD under control and have a good handle on their body. No matter how many surgeries, scopes, scans, and IVs I’ve had, I always get a little teary eyed because it brings me back to 21-year-old me and then all the trauma that comes along with living with Crohn’s for 19 years. While those tears are sad, they also come from the strength of reflecting on what I’ve gone through to bring me to now.
Stay in tune with how your body is speaking to you through symptoms, do not ignore them. It can be challenging to communicate what you’re feeling to someone who does not have IBD. I get that. But by protecting loved ones, friends, and doctors from what you’re experiencing you’re preventing them from stepping in before it’s too late and before you know it your flare has gotten out of control and requires hospitalization. I used to be that person all the time. I would always internalize the pain, silently fighting through each day, doing anything possible to stay out of the hospital until the symptoms were simply unavoidable and required medical intervention. One hospitalization always sticks out in my mind. It was May 2009. I was a 25-year-old morning news anchor in Wisconsin. I was solo producing a 2-hour morning show dealing with horrible abdominal pain that kept making me throw up in the garbage can next to my desk in the newsroom as I struggled to put together the show. Finally, I couldn’t take it anymore and I had to call my co-anchor, who rushed me to the hospital. I was released from the ER hours later after my parents had driven from Chicago in the middle of the night only to return to the hospital that afternoon and have my dad carry me in his arms through the automatic doors. I was finally admitted and given the medical intervention I needed. Take it from me, you’re creating even more of an uphill climb for yourself if you don’t start speaking up when you initially notice something is awry.
The worst moments are just that, moments. When you hit your breaking point, when the pain seems overwhelming, and you can’t see the forest through the trees try to breathe. Go to your happy place. Recognize this is one day, one moment, I always tell myself “This too shall pass.” Go to your happy place mentally. Do mindfulness exercises. Shut out the outside world and focus on your breath. Detach from your body as best you can. Think of people who inspire you and bring you joy. Everything is fleeting. Each flare, each recovery, each prep, procedure, and surgery…it has a start and a finish. One day it will be a memory you talk about.
Pay attention to who is there when you when are quiet and when you’re going through the thick of it. IBD is too big to deal with alone. Lean on people you can trust, who you genuinely feel safe sharing your health woes with. This will be fewer people than you’d ever imagine. Be prepared to realize that many of the people you thought would be front and center to support you will be non-existent. It’s fine to mourn those friendships or relationships, but don’t waste your time or energy on them. Your disease will give you the ability to see who loves you and who wants to be present in not only the good times, but the bad. You can’t change people. Hold on tightly to the people who show up consistently, expecting nothing in return. Those are your people.
Emmanuel Acho shared a reel on Instagram recently that really hit home for me and caused me to reflect a bit on the people in my life and their roles. In the video he explains that friendship is like a house. You have your window, door, and floor friends. Window friends are outside looking in, they don’t know what’s going on in your house. They don’t have intimate access to what’s going on in your life. You can only let so many people into your house. Door friends come in and out of your life depending on the season. When life gets too hard or when your world turns cold, they might exit. Your friends might not be equipped for that season. Floor friends—aren’t going anywhere. You might track mud, but they will last regardless of the season. They are there to catch your tears and hear your fears. Remember—a house has more windows than it has doors and more doors than it does floors…if it has one good floor, you’re set.
Just because you need medication does not mean you’re taking the easy way out. I’ve been where you are. I remember lying helpless in a hospital bed and what it felt like to be told I needed to “break out the big guns” and start a biologic medication back in 2008 when there were only two options on the market for those with IBD. In that moment, we all naturally want to learn about side effects and what this could possibly mean for the long term. But please try and focus on the actual risk versus the benefit. As someone who has been on Humira since July 2008, I’m so grateful for my medication for allowing me to live a full life, bring babies into this world, and be a present, able-bodied, and active mom. It’s not all medicine, or all diet and lifestyle, often for many of us who have moderate to severe IBD we need a mix of both, and that’s ok. You can still thrive and be healthy, despite being on a medication with a black box label.
You are not a burden, and you deserve love. Any romantic partner who makes you feel less than, isn’t present when you need them most, or doesn’t show any empathy or interest in your daily reality isn’t going to stand the test of time. Use your IBD to your advantage to see your partner’s true colors. Be honest and upfront when you start dating and if you ever feel like you need to defend their actions or make excuses consider that a major red flag. Dating and marrying a person with a chronic illness isn’t for everyone, and that’s fine—but when it comes to people like you and me, we need a partner who is willing to take the challenge on beside us every step of the way. Find someone who you feel comfortable communicating openly with, who sees you for more than your disease.
IBD is not a battle to be “won” or “lost.” One of my pet peeves with any health condition or disease is when people say “so and so lost their battle”…they didn’t lose shit. Diseases are not a game. Oftentimes reaching remission is due to luck, disease severity, or surgery. I spent a decade of my life with active disease and have been in remission (thanks to surgery) for almost nine years. I don’t give myself credit for that, I’m not “winning.” It’s because of my efforts to stay diligent with my biologic, vitamins, safety labs, daily decisions, and check-ins with multiple specialists, but I also don’t think I’m at this point because of something special I’m doing compared to someone else. We’re all dealt a different hand of cards in life. Your IBD isn’t a win or lose situation—you’ll celebrate big victories and small ones, too, your disease can rob you at times, it’s a never-ending exchange and game of back and forth. You are not less than because you are flaring. You are not lazy for taking medication or failing because you struggle to follow a strict, regimented diet that may or may not help you. Once you stop thinking of everything as a “fight” it takes a bit of the stress, anger, and onus off your shoulders. IBD is a chronic illness, until there’s a cure, we’re in this situation until the day we die…that’s simply too long to be “fighting” anything.
Get ready to be extra proactive with your health. Due to the nature of our IBD and the medications many of us take, we are at greater risk for additional health problems. It’s important to get annual skin checks at the dermatologist. Make sure whether you have good vision or not that you’re seeing an eye doctor. Get cleanings at the dentist at least every six months. If you’re a female, make sure you get your well woman visits. We are greater risk for cervical cancer because many biologics don’t allow our bodies to fight off HPV, this may mean annual Pap smears. We’re also at an increased risk for breast cancer, so don’t delay your mammogram. Get a bone scan every 3-4 years, get one as close to diagnosis as you can so you have a baseline. Your GI may say it’s not necessary, it is. Steroids put us at risk for osteopenia and osteoporosis from an early age, this may mean you need to see a bone health doctor (yes, those exist). Those of us with IBD are at greater risk for pelvic pain, it can be helpful to see a Pelvic Floor Therapist who addresses those unique needs.
Faith can give you added strength and comfort. I understand faith is very individualized and looks different for each of us, but I can tell you as someone who is Greek Orthodox who has always been a faithful and prayerful person that I rely on my faith to guide me through my IBD each and every day. There’s a sense of comfort and hope that comes with believing God is watching over you through the good, the bad, and everywhere in between. When you’re diagnosed or flaring, it can test your faith. Hold on tightly to what you believe and lean on that (however it looks for you). I truly believe God gives his toughest lessons to his greatest teachers. One of my biggest fears as an IBD mom of 3 is that one of my children will get my disease one day. Each night before bed, I always pray with them and say, “keep my babies healthy, safe, and strong.”
My why. My motivation to push through each and every day.
Family planning takes time and effort. Just because you have IBD does not mean you can’t be a biological mom or dad one day. The journey will look a bit different, but this disease does not necessarily need to rob you of the experience if that’s what you want in your life. Communicate these desires with your GI so they can help prep your body for a baby. This can mean starting a prenatal vitamin and folic acid several months before trying. I had a colonoscopy before every pregnancy so that I could be given the ‘green light’ by my GI that we were cleared to try for a baby. When I was pregnant, my care was overseen by my OB, a maternal fetal medicine OB (high risk), and my GI. Unless you have perianal disease, you can have a vaginal birth, but oftentimes this is a discussion left to you and your care team. I personally chose to have 3 scheduled c-sections, because while I don’t have perianal Crohn’s, I didn’t want to risk tearing or causing a fistula to form. I would make the same choice if I had to do it all over again. I also stayed on my biologic through conception, pregnancy, and breastfeeding. These are all personal choices but there are many, many research studies available that show the safety and efficacy of doing so. If you feel you could have internal scarring due to past surgeries that could hinder your fertility, check in with a fertility specialist and have them help you investigate if there could be issues.
Educate yourself on insurance, prior authorizations, specialty pharmacies, and Pharmacy Benefit Managers (PBMS). Unfortunately, with IBD we are forced to do so much behind-the-scenes work to simply receive treatment and medication. You will waste countless hours and endless energy on the phone as these people give you the run around. Nobody ever seems to want to take ownership. Work with your gastroenterologist if you are denied a medication so they can write an appeal letter to insurance and go to bat for you. Stay on top of everything, don’t worry about annoying anybody. You gotta hustle. You gotta be frank and assertive. It’s not about hurting feelings; it’s about making sure people are doing their jobs and ensuring your course of treatment doesn’t get delayed because someone fumbles some paperwork. Our medications are time sensitive. Light a fire under people’s ass if you’re not getting responses you deserve. One of my friends on social media posted this over the weekend, “Managing specialty medications in January is an annual slap in the face to chronically ill people.” It sure is. This week will mark the first time I’ve ever received my injections late in the mail, due to a misstep in my GI office that I had to follow up on for over a week. Be extra proactive at the start of each year. Make sure your GI informs you about all the patient savings programs available, these can help you not only emotionally, but also financially.
You get the final say. No one but you gets to say what you do with your body. If a doctor wants you to do an enema before a scope and you don’t want to, don’t. If you don’t feel comfortable with taking a certain medication and your care provider keeps pushing it, they can’t physically make you pop a pill, take an injection, or receive an infusion. You must do your research, educate yourself every day, feel empowered by all you know and be ready to deal with the ramifications if you go against the grain or determine you want to try something differently. There’s not one “right” way to live with IBD. Be honest with your provider. Don’t say you’re taking a medication and then not take it, that’s not helping anyone or anything. Be a compliant patient, but an educated and empowered one at the same time. Measure all the risks and benefits and what your hopes and dreams are for your present life and for your future. Don’t ever feel like someone else can or should dictate what path your journey takes. Just because one biologic is a magic bullet for one person doesn’t mean it will be for you. You never fail treatments, they fail you. If a provider says “oh, you failed Remicade” … please correct them. “No, Remicade failed me.”
I write this as a 40-year-old mom of three—ages 6, 5, and 2.5 years old, married for almost 8 years, who has been on a biologic since 2008, who was diagnosed at age 21 in 2005. So much has changed for the better regarding the patient experience since that time. My perspective has come a long way. I used to be right where you are, so many are living your current reality. Instagram is the bread and butter for the patient community, that’s where you’ll find the most patients and caregivers transparently sharing. Follow the accounts, send a DM, comment on reels and posts, get engaged. Never hestitate to connect and reach out to me–natalieannhayden. Educate yourself through lived experiences and people who have paved the way for you, rather than Google. You don’t need to recreate the wheel, but this is your experience and your story. You get the final word on how you want each chapter to play out. Know each time you fall you will bounce back and that there’s a massive community of support here to catch you and cheer you on every step of the way as you rise once again.
To receive biologic infusions at home or within a medical setting? That is the question. As an IBD mom of three who has done self-injections for 15-plus years, it’s intrigued me to see how many people in the IBD community now receive at-home infusions. This inspired me to dig deeper and hear firsthand what fellow patients have to say about their experience. When polled on Instagram—out of 260 votes, 55% of IBD patients prefer at home infusions compared to 45% who would like to receive their medication in a medical setting. This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s hear advice, guidance, the role insurance plays in all of this, and perspective on treating your IBD at home versus at an infusion clinic or hospital. I learned a lot and I think you will, too!
Discussing Home Infusions with your Care Team
If receiving your infusion at home interests you, here’s what you can do to get the ball rolling on making it happen.
Talk with your GI about whether home infusions are an option in your area and if they feel comfortable with you doing so. Discuss the risks and benefits. Your GI will need to write a prescription.
Call your insurance and make sure home infusions are covered in your health plan.
Amanda has been doing Remicade infusions at home since the pandemic started and she says it’s been much better for her. Being able to receive her medication at home and cuddle with her 4-year-old daughter and dog are big wins for her. Recently, she also receives daily IV fluids, and thanks to her Port and home health, she’s been able to do it herself.
Amanda: “Home infusions have changed the game for me. They make me feel safer as someone whose immune compromised. I almost always have the same nurse, and I don’t have to commute before or after. How grateful am I!”
She says how you coordinate setting up home infusions is dependent on your insurance. Personally, after talking with her insurance she found a list of home health agencies within 30 miles of her house and called and spoke with a few.
“Some did not administer my medication, some charged separately for nursing fee, and some were not taking new patients. Once I found a good option for my family, the home health company reaches out to your GI doctor, who then sends the script to the Specialty Pharmacy, rather than to an infusion center.”
When Bad Veins and IV issues Set You Back
One of the main reasons I chose to do a self-injection rather than an infusion was because of how horrible my veins are. When I was told I needed to start a biologic during a hospitalization in July 2008, it was the same hospitalization where it took three people and eight tries to start an IV on me. To this day, I’m still a bit fearful of getting IVs because of that traumatic situation. Several people wrote to me with the same concerns—this is something to consider if you typically need a Vein Finder for hospital visits and procedures.
Olivia: “I initially loved the idea of doing infusions at home. My first one went smoothly, the nurse had a bit of trouble finding a vein and drawing blood, but no problems after that. The ability to do my infusion in my bed or on my couch was so much more comfortable than the hospital! But then, the next two infusions, the nurse had trouble getting a vein and one had to be rescheduled because of hospital policy. That infusion took over an hour to find a vein. After that, we spent a month trying to convince insurance to let me go back to the hospital so I could use the ultrasound to get IVs placed. Ever since, I’ve been doing infusions at the hospital. The idea of doing infusions at home was nice, but it didn’t work for my situation.”
Meredith: “I get my Entyvio infusion at home. I don’t love it. It is more convenient than having to go to the hospital/office, but nurses often have trouble starting IVs on me and at home they are the only option. There is no backup and I’ve had a few bad experiences. Things have gotten better because I now have in my profile that I need pediatric needles, but they aren’t the standard, so those types of needles are not always supplied. The insurance decided for me that I would receive my infusions at home because it’s cheaper and since I’ve never had allergic reaction. The service by me is different, but there is no future scheduling. You know around the date that your next infusion is and then you’re contacted one day beforehand with a time. I’m too high strung to be comfortable with that, but it is what it is.”
Much like Amanda, Meredith loves having her dog there for support. When she initially started getting home infusions her dog needed to stay outside the room because she was too interested in what was going on, but now she’s used to the process and equipment and can snuggle.
Heidi: “My insurance made me switch to home infusions. At first, I was nervous because I’m a hard stick and always require a vein finder. I also just felt safer in a hospital setting. But, I’ve been doing home infusions for three years and I love it. I have my “old faithful” vein and I like being in my own home with my own bathroom and other comforts. I also have wonderful nurses whom I look forward to seeing each time. Everything is so much more personal this way.”
Melissa: “Sadly my veins are awful, and I wouldn’t want to chance the one person who comes not being able to get an IV started.”
Concerns from the Community Regarding Home Infusions
Ashley: “With my ulcerative colitis, comes other chronic illnesses. Which is true for a lot of people in our community. I have POTS, so having my infusions done in a healthcare setting is more reassuring for me because there’s more safety nets in place.”
Emilie: “I don’t get my infusions at home anymore (I used to!) because I hated it. The nurse was always texting me to reschedule, I was always having to deal with CVS trying to get my medication delivered on time, and I had to store all the stuff. It also made me feel like a “patient” in my own home. Mentally it was incredibly stressful organizing and coordinating everything and feeling like I was constantly sick because the medical equipment was always around. I much prefer going to an infusion center, where I just show up and they have everything ready to go. Just another perspective—I know a lot of people love getting infusions at home and I’m in the minority, but there are cons to consider.”
Mary: “I don’t currently do an infusion medication, but I have in the past with Remicade. My GI office set home infusions up for me after I did the first few in the office. It was more convenient for me due to the office being about 1.5 hours away from where I live. I was provided with an IV pole to keep at home among other supplies and a nurse came to my house to do the infusion. It was awkward at first, but after a few times it got better. Unfortunately, during one infusion, I had an allergic reaction unexpectedly, during which the nurse had to give me Benadryl and another medication. After that happened, I couldn’t do them at home anymore and had to go to the office. After two more infusions, my GI discovered I wasn’t responding to Remicade anymore and I had to switch to Stelara. The cons are the risk of something happening and not being in a medical setting. Luckily, I had a great nurse who knew what to do.”
Adam: “I prefer the clinic and the reason is, when I was on Humira and had to self-inject, I always worried I didn’t get it in the right spot or the full injection and miss some of my medication. For me, it’s a piece of mind that my infusion is done properly.”
IBD Moms Experience
Miranda was diagnosed with Crohn’s during the height of the pandemic. When she started Entyvio it was in an infusion center, and she felt like she was putting herself and her family at risk each time she went in. By receiving infusions at home, you can potentially be exposed to fewer hospital-acquired infections. This is especially important for individuals with compromised immune systems, as it helps minimize the risk of additional health complications.
“I saw a few ladies (connections on Instagram) who were receiving home infusions, so I asked my doctor about it. He said it would be no problem to connect me with a company in Dallas that handles nursing and medications for in-home infusions. My only obstacle was seeing if my insurance company would approve home nursing. After calling them to go over benefits, my insurance informed me I could receive in-home nursing. I did have to escalate the call to get it pushed through. At the end of the day home infusions were approved. The same company that ships my meds provides nursing. I do have to make a phone call every January to make sure coverage is good, but other than that it’s a flawless process. The nurse and I are close friends.”
Christina: “I specifically told my GI I don’t want to get infusions at home because I like my “me” time in the infusion clinic. Two hours to read my Kindle in peace! I also decline the accelerated rate…perspective changes when you have kids. My nurse jokes they’re my spa days!”
Krista: “I moved to home infusions once I had my daughter. It was more convenient because I didn’t have to find someone to watch my daughter (I had nobody to help or to ask) so that I could attend my infusions. I had a pleasant experience, and the nurse was fantastic. Being able to do infusions in the comfort of my home was fantastic, especially needing an infusion only 2 weeks postpartum, while recovering from a c-section.”
Getting adjusted to receiving medication without support from fellow patients in the room
Kristi has been receiving Remicade at home monthly since January. Her GI office stopped doing infusions at their office due to staffing issues. After a time or two at the hospital-run infusion center, her insurance company called her to see if she’d be interested in home infusions. Since she had been driving an hour each way for years, she jumped at the chance!
“The idea of not having to worry about getting my infusion during a winter storm was enough for me. My doctor’s office was hesitant at first. I was always on board with the idea, and I was shocked to see the cost was similar to my doctor’s office but significantly less than an infusion center. Home infusions have allowed me more flexibility in scheduling. I also feel like my resting period post-infusion is much easier since I’m already home. While I love home infusions, there are some downsides. I don’t think I would have wanted this back years ago when I started infusions. There’s a lot to be said about the community and the support I received just by being in an infusion room with similar patients. It was also nice to be in my doctor’s office monthly, where I could easily report any symptoms, I was having health wise. I am the person that needs to have my house looking perfect before company comes over, so that adds an extra level of stress during an infusion week. It’s also a bit odd to have the nurse here for so many hours. However, I’ve had two nurses so far and they’ve always been very good and very respectful in my home and if I wanted quiet time. Overall, I don’t think I could go back to going somewhere.”
Kristi says now that she doesn’t have the infusion room support, she relies even more on the social media community and the IBD family online. She also loves getting to snuggle with her dog and use him as a heating blanket while she receives her infusion.
Final Thoughts
Balancing the risks vs. benefits. As you’ve read, home infusions are not a one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person, doesn’t for another. While the benefit of being at home is a big one, having to worry about the sole nurse at your house finding a vein and not knowing if you’re going to have a bad reaction are just some of the cons that can make the experience worrisome for people.
The convenience of home. Home infusions offer the convenience of receiving treatment in the comfort of your own home. This eliminates the need to travel to a medical facility and allows you to maintain your daily routine more easily. For IBD parents and caregivers it alleviates the need of finding childcare. By fitting infusions into your daily life, it helps to reduce the disruption that may come with hospital or infusion center visits. So many of us deal with medical PTSD and having the comfort and familiarity of home can help to ease that burden a bit.
Kat: “I received home infusions for years for UC. My doctor’s office got them set up because I live in a rural area. The pros were the convenience and being in the comfort of my home. The cons were having a stranger in my home for over an hour. Dealing with the company’s billing department was also horrendous.”
A more personalized treatment experience. You can have a dedicated healthcare professional who gets to know you and your specific needs, creating a customized care plan to address your individual symptoms and concerns. Many IBD people I speak with have a close bond with the nurse who visits their home and feel supported during the process.
Jill started on Humira and was later switched to Remicade infusions. She started receiving infusions at the hospital and then her GI recommended she try home infusions to limit exposure to germs.
“My GI’s office took care of the paperwork and I had the choice between two home health companies. This has been a game changer for any guilt I felt around missing work, because the nurse comes to my home and I can continue working on my laptop, if needed. Or I schedule infusions to begin at the end of my work day. I have a great relationship with my home health nurse and she knows me and my veins so well now. I value the relationship and level of care as well as the flexibility I have found with this option. It’s a win for my mental health as well.
Matt received home infusions for seven years. If he could pass along any advice, he says to be even more proactive about your health.
“I had to always coordinate shipments, supplies, and the infusion schedule. The pros are the flexibility and comfort, but the cons are not being at an infusion center where you can unplug and be in your own thoughts.
It’s important to discuss the option of home infusions with your healthcare team to determine if it’s a suitable choice for you. Your care team can address any concerns or questions you may have, educate you on the process, and help you make an informed decision. Remember, you have options and support to manage your IBD effectively, even when it comes to receiving necessary infusions.
I remember the first phone call when I was pregnant with my oldest as a soon-to-be IBD mom. A researcher from Mother to Baby called me when I was newly pregnant and leaving work—I sat in my car in a parking lot, as she asked me several questions about my health, well-being, medication, and pregnancy thus far. That was Fall of 2016. Fast forward to now—and my oldest, Reid, just graduated from kindergarten. When I was diagnosed with Crohn’s disease at age 21 in 2005, one of my biggest fears was whether my chronic illness was going to rob me of motherhood. Back then, I was nowhere near ready to settle down, but the worry was always in the back of my mind.
When my husband and I got married in June 2016 and I was 10 months into surgical remission, we knew we needed to capitalize on my IBD finally being under control. Luckily, we got pregnant one month after getting married. Shortly thereafter, I started researching pregnancy studies for IBD moms. Lights, Camera, Crohn’s launched two days before I received a positive pregnancy test. I was fresh into my advocacy and had never been pregnant before. I didn’t have a community of IBD moms to lean on for questions or support as I navigated the unknown.
I came across information about Mother to Baby online and ended up being a part of their pregnancy studies for my first two children. The studies were different, but I had such a positive experience with Reid, that I decided to participate again with my daughter, Sophia. Reid’s study was a 5-year look at how Humira impacts babies in utero through kindergarten. When I was initially pregnant with him, this felt light years away. And here we are. Over the course of his pregnancy and until November 2022, I completed surveys, did phone interviews, had an in-person meeting with a doctor who came to my home and looked him over in front of me for any health anomalies, and most recently did an in-person cognitive neurobehavioral assessment at a nearby hotel with researchers.
We just got the results. While it’s rewarding to participate in IBD studies and interesting to learn, there’s always a part of you that worries about the findings and if mom guilt will ensue. It’s been reassuring and comforting to see my healthy kids, who were exposed to Humira in utero through the 3rd trimester, thrive and excel with milestones and in school.
The findings of the study
In November 2022, Reid and I met up at a nearby hotel with two researchers who provided neurodevelopmental behavioral evaluations for both of us. Reid’s assessment used a series of questions, games, and puzzles to help researchers determine his development of language ability, memory skills, and problem-solving abilities. The tests were selected to provide an evaluation of general mental ability and to describe specific abilities in areas of verbal knowledge and reasoning and visual-perceptual reasoning and organization. The tests were intense, I was proud of him for how he handled himself during the process.
Reid and I waiting to do our assessmentwith research administrators
According to Mother To Baby, “this battery of tests is best suited to examine the similarities and differences among groups of children. While it was not adapted for Reid’s individual characteristics, it can highlight general strengths and weaknesses in a child’s cognitive profile and indicate potential concerns when present.”
Behavioral Observations: “Reid was personable and interacted with both administrators on his arrival. He had a very positive attitude toward testing and quickly became comfortable with administration. He was engaged and attentive to the materials, listened attentively to the examiner and provided effortful responses even as questions became more difficult. Reid demonstrated good cooperation and attitude by following instructions and requiring minimal to no redirection from the administrators of his mother. He was focused and friendly for the full duration of testing.”
Summary of Assessment Results: “Tests were administered in a single testing session with one short break. The Wechsler Preschool and Primary Scale of Intelligence (WPPSI-IV) was selected to provide an evaluation of Reid’s general mental ability and to describe specific abilities in areas of verbal knowledge and reasoning and visual-perceptual reasoning and organization. This battery of tests is best suited to examine the similarities and differences in ability among similarly aged groups of children. While it was not adapted for Reid’s individual characteristics, it can highlight general strengths and weaknesses as well as potential concerns when present.”
The intelligence test was comprised of 10 subtests which measured a variety of verbal and nonverbal skills. Reid achieved a composite score in the average range. In the working memory category and spatial working memory, Reid performed in the high average range, which required him to remember and identify pictures that had previously been shown to him. On tasks that measured visual-spatial abilities, Reid scored below average. These tasks required him to synthesize visual stimuli to recreate block design.
“Reid was highly focused while processing visual stimuli. Overall, Reid is a bright and enthusiastic child. He was a pleasure to work with.”
Along with Reid’s assessment, I was also interviewed and performed tasks with an examiner on the other side of the room. I was assessed in the adjustment and life context. Tests included the Center for Epidemiological Studies Depression Scale and Parent Stress Index. My scores were within normal limits and my general mental ability also scored in the average range. Not gonna lie, the testing was challenging!
Reflecting on my experience
As an IBD mom of a 6-year-old, 4-year-old, and 22-month-old, who participated in pregnancy research during each of my pregnancies, I can’t begin to tell you how incredibly rewarding it is to know that your personal experience is helping to drive the future of care for women in our community who have hopes of one day being a mother. Sure, it takes a little bit of time and effort, but the data and research to show the safety and efficacy of medications while pregnant and breastfeeding is so needed. It’s comforting to know Reid is right where he needs to be cognitively and healthy physically, despite my high-risk pregnancy and exposure to Humira until 39 weeks gestation. We need more women to willingly step up to the plate and share their journeys to help guide the future of IBD motherhood and show all that’s possible despite our disease.
Opportunities to participate in research
Many people need to take medication during pregnancy to manage and treat their IBD. Yet, according to the Mother To Baby website, fewer than 10% of medications have enough information to determine their safety for use in pregnancy.
Do you have Crohn’s disease? Are you currently pregnant? If you answered “yes” to both questions, you may be able to help Mother To Baby advance the knowledge of how managing IBD in pregnancy impacts a developing baby. Click here to learn about how you can impact the health of future families by joining the Crohn’s Disease and Pregnancy Study.
Life with IBD is constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Expecting more trauma. Knowing in your heart of hearts the results won’t be in your favor. Preparing yourself mentally and emotionally for the worst. Gearing up for the next unexpected roadblock or hurdle. I felt all these things walking into my first-ever bone health specialist appointment Friday (4/7/2023). My bone scan in December 2022, days before Christmas, showed some remarkable deterioration in my lumbar spine since my previous scan in 2019. My GI called me a bit alarmed the same day I did my scan, and let me know it was imperative I follow up with a bone health doctor.
I felt nervous about what this meant for my future and let’s just say Google was not my friend. When you’re 39 and a busy stay at home mom of three young children, osteoporosis doesn’t really go with my flow. When I went to make an appointment, the bone health specialist was booked until December 2023…a whole YEAR from my previous bone scan. I felt helpless and didn’t know what I should do proactively to maintain my bone health and try and improve it. Reading up, it sounded like a simple abdominal crunch could cause vertebrae to compress and fracture. I felt scared to exercise or put any additional strain from my day-to-day on my back.
The week of Christmas I wrote to the bone health specialist directly by email about my health history and my concern for waiting a whole year. I received a phone call from her office shortly after the New Year and they got me in April 7, 2023…instead of December 2023. I was over the moon, but also a bit anxious about what this appointment would mean for my future.
What the experience at the bone health doctor entailed
It was a crisp, sunny, spring day in St. Louis as I parked my car, took a deep breath, and said a little prayer before walking into the medical building. The office required me to do another bone scan as their machine and readings are different from the hospital where my previous scans were taken from (even though they are the same medical system). When I laid on the table for the bone scan my mind raced a bit, I felt a little anxiety creeping in. I figured the results were going to be the same as before and that I was going to be approached about starting an additional biologic (which I was planning to push back on).
When the doctor walked in, she said I have “low bone mass” for my age. At this point, unless I’ve had a fracture, she said they wouldn’t use the term “osteopenia” or “osteoporosis”. According to the Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation, as many as 30 to 60 percent of people with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis have lower-than-average bone density. Being that I am almost 40 and pre-menopausal, there’s what’s called the Z and the T-score. I wasn’t aware of this and needed to do research to understand this better.
According to the Bone Health and Osteoporosis Foundation, T-Scores compare bone density with that of a healthy person, whereas Z-scores use the average bone density of people of the same age, sex, and size as a comparator. Although both scores are beneficial, most experts prefer to focus on Z-scores for children, teenagers, premenopausal females, and young males. These scores are helpful for diagnosing secondary osteoporosis, which stems from underlying medical conditions (such as IBD), rather than primary osteoporosis which results from a person aging.
So my Z-score was -1.8…while zero would be optimal, given my nearly 18-year history living with Crohn’s, past steroid use, and the fact I’m Vitamin D deficient, the doctor was not overly concerned by that number.
We went through my patient journey with Crohn’s disease—each hospitalization, timing of steroids, family history, timing of pregnancies and breastfeeding, whether I have ever used birth control, if I had ever had a kidney stone…this doctor genuinely listened and wanted to get details about my full health history. I felt validated, seen, and heard, but also comforted that the main “concern” is moreso my Vitamin D deficiency than anything else.
What this means moving forward
To strengthen bones and slow down the rate of deterioration, lifestyle is key. Vitamin D and Calcium are vital. My GI currently prescribes me 50,000 IU of Vitamin D once a week, along with 2,000 IU of Vitamin D3 daily. The bone health specialist told me after I get my routine labs done in June, if my Vitamin D doesn’t improve that she would suggest going on 50,000 IU two times a week. Like many of us in the IBD community, we tend to have malabsorption problems due to past surgery.
Along with my typical labs from my GI, this doctor also added additional labs—Vitamin D, Renal Function panel, and parathyroid hormone (PHT) test.
As far as Calcium, she recommended trying to get it through diet versus a supplement. She suggested eating yogurt daily, cheese, fortified cereals/oatmeal, and drinking milk/almond milk, OJ with calcium, and eating leafy greens. With my age, the goal is to consume1,000 mg of Calcium a day. It’s important to note she said Calcium can cause constipation and bloating. Calcium is absorbed best when taken in amounts of 600 mg or less per dose.
In a helpful folder provided by my doctor, I learned that our bodies need Vitamin D to absorb Calcium. When you’re Vitamin D deficient like me, our bodies cannot absorb enough calcium from diet and take it from our skeletons, where Calcium is stored. This weakens existing bone and prevents the formation of new bone. You can get Vitamin D from different sources: through the skin, with diet, and by taking supplements.
When it comes to exercise, I have no limitations. My doctor recommended I avoid high risk activities like extreme snowboarding or powerlifting, which isn’t an issue for me!
Given that I do have lower bone mass, I have another bone scan scheduled for April 2024 along with another bone health appointment immediately following the scan. It does my heart good to know that we’re being proactive with annual scans, but conservative in our approach. Everyone who has IBD should be given a bone scan in order to get a baseline read and follow up with repeat scans every 2-3 years, unless there’s concerning findings. If you’re reading this and your GI has not communicated with you about bone health, it’s time to start the discussion.
Simply saying and hearing “low bone mass” from a patient perspective has a much better connotation than “osteoporosis”. The entire experience and appointment with my new specialist felt like a big win. The news was unexpected, and I felt like I could breathe a sigh of relief. One less health issue to worry about, but something that I’ll continue to keep tabs on.
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Parenthood when you live with a chronic illness like IBD can make you feel anxious, worried, and uneasy. As an IBD mom of three, I often connect with and share the stories of fellow women with Crohn’s disease or ulcerative colitis who have brought life into this world, despite their disease.
This week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s we hear from a soon-to-be IBD Dad, Brad Watson-Davelaar. He was diagnosed with Crohn’s in 2001 at age 17. His name and face may look familiar, as I featured him in an article entitled: IBD Dads: What these patient heroes have to say about fatherhood. In that article, Brad was recently married and discussed his hopes for the future. Those hopes came to fruition, as he and his wife are awaiting the arrival of a baby girl in late June!
Leading up to the pregnancy, Brad was a bit scared of what fatherhood would look like while living with an unpredictable disease. Like many of us, Brad fears when his IBD will rear its ugly head again and cause him not to be as present as he wants to be, hindering his ability to be a “proper teammate” for his wife.
“Prior to my wife being pregnant, I think I was scared. I’ve wanted to be a dad for some time, but with the way my health has been over the last several years, the prospect of having kids while I was in that physical state freaked me out. Not because I didn’t want kids, but because I was worried I wasn’t going to be enough for them.”
Finding out he was going to be a dad
When Brad found out his wife was expecting he was elated. They had been trying for a few months and he was only a couple months post-op from his ileostomy and barbie butt surgery. While Brad knows life as an IBD Dad will have its ups and downs, he knows the highs will far outweigh any of the difficult days.
“I’m so thankful for Shawn, my stoma, for coming in and giving me a new lease on life. I feel ready to tackle this new chapter of our life and all that comes with it. The good, the bad, the ugly, and the beautiful.”
Since he’s lived with IBD for nearly 22 years and has been an ostomate for 6 months, Brad feels his patient journey has conditioned him to deal with the unexpected. He hopes to connect with fellow IBD dads who have paved the way before him and shown all that’s possible.
Discussing IBD with his daughter in the future
As his daughter grows up, Brad plans to be an open book about his battle with Crohn’s.
“I want to help her understand what IBD and ostomies are. Especially ostomies. It will take time, but I believe in being open and not hiding things. I want her to see that my IBD does not define me and show her how important it is to advocate for yourself.”
As Brad and his wife gear up to become a family of three, they are overjoyed and excited about the new chapter in their lives that is about to begin.
“I’ll be there to look after this wee little one, which will fill my heart with warmth. Being able to focus on her achievements will be a brilliant way to get through the rough days. In the past, it was the little things that got me through. Now, I’ll have all the little moments to continually push me.”
His wife, Sydney, feels so lucky to have Brad by her side as they experience this adventure.
“He had struggled so much over the last couple decades, especially these last couple of years and his perseverance and strength through it all makes me know that nothing is too big for him to overcome. I know he is going to be an amazing dad with so much love, nerdiness and laughter. His Crohn’s is a part of him, but his IBD does not define him. I know no matter what we can get through it together. Brad’s last surgery has definitely given him a new lease on life. With a baby on the way, his ostomy will help him be more present, active, playful, adventurous and helpful. I cannot wait to see him hold our little girl for the first time,” she said.
When the Pregnancy Inflammatory Bowel Disease and Neonatal Outcomes (PIANO) study first launched in 2007 the main goal was to understand the safety of anti-TNF biologics like Humira and Remicade, and thiopurines for women throughout pregnancy and postpartum. As an IBD mom of three, I was able to participate with my youngest who is nearly 16 months old. The experience was something I am extremely grateful for. This incredible research for our community that is going on daily, helps guide decision making for treatment, while easing our fears as we embark on motherhood while managing IBD.
PIANO 2.0 is now underway and this week on Lights, Camera, Crohn’s I share everything you need to know about the updates to the ongoing research project, how you can participate, what the findings have shown thus far, and the goals for the future. Esteemed gastroenterologist, Dr. Uma Mahadevan, continues to lead the charge and help pave the way by sharing discoveries and findings.
“With new funding from the Helmsley Charitable Trust, we are really able to transform PIANO and try to reach a broader group of patients and answer more challenging questions. These questions include the safety of small molecules (tofacitinib, upadacitinib, ozanimod) and the newer biologics (ustekinumab, vedolizumab, risankizumab) as well as expand into studying the placenta and the impact of IBD, the response to COVID vaccine in pregnant IBD patients, and following children out to 18 years of age to look at long term safety and outcomes. The more you know, the more questions that come up.”
What’s new with PIANO
All women with IBD who are pregnant in the United States are invited to enroll. Specific interest in enrolling women on newer biologics (Stelara, Skyrizi, Entyvio, biosimilars) and small molecules (Xeljanz, Rinvoq, Zeposia) even if it was within 3 months of your last menstrual period but not during pregnancy. PIANO 2.0 is also expanding to look at the safety of aspirin in pregnancy (to reduce the pre-eclampsia rate) and well as how IBD women heal after a c-section and vaginal delivery.
There are new and improved patient and site interaction updates as well. There’s now a patient portal that enables women to enter their data directly, a Twitter page (@PIANOIBD) for research findings and updates, and a website with outcome data right at your fingertips.
The medical sites participating have also expanded to include USC, University of Miami, and the University of Maryland. Dr. Mahadevan says they realized most patients in PIANO were Caucasian and of higher socioeconomic status.
“We know pregnancy outcomes differ by race and socioeconomic status and we need to understand if that also applied to IBD pregnancies – does it make those differences more extreme or is there no impact? By expanding to sites with a far more diverse population, we will be able to better answer those questions.”
As far as the Patient Portal, rather than filling out paperwork and participating in phone interviews, now women simply answer questionnaires on the portal when they enter the study, every trimester, after delivery, at months 4, 9, and 12 of baby’s life and then once a year thereafter. Thanks to the Patient Portal, women can enroll remotely across the United States and don’t have to be at an IBD Center to participate.
Pushing the research further
The overarching goal with PIANO 2.0 is to gather data points from newer biologics and biosimilars and look at the safety of small molecules. So far, 2,012 women with IBD have participated in PIANO. The hope is to have at least 150 newly pregnant women participate each year.
So grateful I was able to participate in the PIANO study during this pregnancy, with my youngest child, who is nearly 16 months.
“With biologics we generally feel they are all low risk as they won’t cross the placenta in the first trimester when the baby’s organs are forming. Small molecules, however, are more concerning as they will cross during that key period of organogenesis. However, for some women that is the only therapy that works, and they must make difficult decisions,” explained Dr. Mahadevan.
Once the baby is born, the research will look at if the child develops any infection issues, malignancies, neurological issues, and immune diseases like IBD. There are some questions about basic diet as well. Having long-term data and a fuller picture of the future for IBD moms is priceless. By participating we’re truly paving the way for IBD moms now and in the future.
Dr. Rishika Chugh recently shared a presentation at the American College of Gastroenterology conference that Dr. Mahadevan co-authored that looked at data on 47 women on Stelara (ustekinumab) and 66 on Entyvio (vedolizumab). Those women were compared to moms not on biologics/thiopurines and those on anti-TNF therapies.
“There was no increase in harm from being on Stelara or Entyvio compared to those groups. Interestingly, those on Stelara had lower rates of preterm birth and C section. Numerically, there were also less infections on Stelara though that was not statistically significant.”
Participate in a Townhall Discussion with Dr. Mahadevan: Starting a Family with IBD: What Men and Women with IBD Should Know about Conception and Pregnancy
Save the date for a discussion taking place Thursday, December 15 at 6:30 pm Pacific Time. Click here to register for the free event.
I’m excited to be serving as one of the IBD patient advisors on the project, alongside fellow IBD moms Jessica Caron, Brooke Abbott and Amber Tresca (from IBD moms). We’re looking forward to providing the patient perspective and helping to guide the conversation. Jess and I were on biologics in pregnancy and have previously participated in PIANO. I had the opportunity to participate in IBD research studies with all three of my kids and it’s extremely empowering to know you are helping to change the future of care for women in our community and providing women with the added support we need while navigating pregnancy and motherhood with a chronic illness.
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