Getting a colonoscopy when you have Inflammatory Bowel Disease (IBD) carries a distinct set of challenges and trauma compared to the average person receiving a colon cancer screening scope. I underwent my 10th colonoscopy this past week as part of my Crohn’s disease surveillance and heard the word “trauma” on multiple occasions.
I received the following public comment on an Instagram post following my colonoscopy, “You seem to have trauma around colonoscopy prep. I get it, but I don’t. Childbirth is traumatic but colonoscopy prep is not. It sucks, but really not traumatic. The flu sucks, strep throat sucks, why is this so hard for people?”
…to which I responded, “Do you have IBD?”…radio silence.
*Side note—none of my 3 child births were even close to traumatic, they were all joyous, uneventful, and happy occasions. But I digress.*
I had a wonderful nurse get me ready for my scope and give my IV, I let her know I have terrible veins and that I’m a tough stick. Once the IV was started she said that it appeared I have trauma around IVs…which I said was correct. While I appreciated her recognizing this it also felt a little bit judgy. During a prior hospitalization it took EIGHT tries to get an IV started. These difficult medical experiences cause trauma. It should not come as a surprise to anyone dealing with an IBD patient that what may seem run of the mill to an average person is not the same for us. I have to tell myself not to roll my eyes when a 70-year-old tells me how “easy” and uncomplicated their colonoscopy was. Happy for them…but their experience is much different than mine.
My most recent colonoscopy experience inspired me to dig a bit deeper and help to articulate why it’s hurtful and not helpful when you try and compare a “healthy” person’s experience getting a scope compared to someone diagnosed with IBD.
Oftentimes we receive confirmation of our IBD diagnosis after a colonoscopy. The results of a colonoscopy can significantly impact treatment plans, which may heighten stress. The fear of bad news—such as disease progression or the discovery of dysplasia—can weigh heavily. We not only have to rule out colon cancer (due to our elevated risk), we also have the weighted worry about hearing we could have active disease and inflammation going on. If that’s the case we may need to stop our current treatment, start a new treatment, need surgery, etc.
Unlike the average person who may not need a scope until age 45 and then not for another 7-10 years after, we know we may need to go through the ordeal multiple times a year, annually, or every other year starting whenever we’re diagnosed (as a child/in our 20s). The frequency of needing to go through prep and the procedure is astronomical compared to the typical person and when you’re way younger than 45 and have to go through a scope it builds resentment against your body, something our healthy peers and caregivers can’t truly grasp unless they’ve lived it. The cumulative stress of repeated procedures can lead to heightened anxiety and emotional exhaustion.
Our digestion is different from yours. Prep can induce abdominal pain, nausea, vomiting, and bloating that mirrors flare symptoms to us and this in and of itself can feel traumatic. People with IBD frequently experience inflamed, ulcerated, or narrowed sections of the gastrointestinal tract. During a colonoscopy, these areas may be more sensitive, leading to increased pain and discomfort compared to individuals without the condition. The bowel preparation process—which involves consuming large amounts of laxatives to clear the colon—can be especially grueling for those with IBD. It may exacerbate symptoms like diarrhea, cramping, and dehydration, making the days leading up to the procedure particularly difficult.
Many of us take the prep a step further and start a liquid diet days before the actual prep to try and “ease” the process. I personally put myself on a full liquid diet 4-5 days prior to my scopes and then a clear liquid the day before. This takes a great deal of willpower, especially as an IBD mom making school lunches and meals for my kids, while not being able to eat any of it. Caring for a family while running on fumes is not for the faint of heart. It’s a challenge to have the energy to function while feeling hangry. Understand that we might feel irritable, fatigued, or anxious during the preparation and recovery process. Provide a judgment-free space for us to express our feelings. I’m not one of those people who feels comfortable eating a light breakfast the day before a scope, because I fear not being cleaned out enough and having to go through the experience again sooner than I need or want to.
How to Be Supportive
- Acknowledge Their Experience: Validate their feelings and recognize that colonoscopies are more than a simple procedure for someone with IBD. Avoid dismissive comments like “It’s just routine.”
- Offer Practical Help:
- Assist with transportation to and from the procedure. Offer to babysit if the person has kids or needs help at home with childcare.
- Help prepare supplies for the bowel prep process, such as clear liquids, electrolyte solutions, and soft toilet paper.
- Offer to stay with them during recovery if needed.
- My husband always makes a point to take our kids out to dinner or try and not eat in front of me while I’m prepping, this makes a world of difference. We also always go out for a big breakfast or lunch date immediately following the procedure.
- Provide Distractions. During the prep period, suggest activities to keep their mind off the discomfort, such as watching movies, playing games, or listening to calming music.
- Encourage Communication with Healthcare Providers. If they’re particularly anxious or in pain, encourage them to discuss these concerns with their doctor. Sedation options or anti-anxiety medications might help make the procedure more tolerable. I always make sure I have Zofran on hand to take prior to my prep to help with nausea. I still always vomit at least once, but it does help.
- Respect Their Privacy: Everyone copes differently. Some people may want to talk about their experience and post about it on social media, while others may prefer to keep it private. Follow their lead and respect their boundaries.
Final thoughts
Colonoscopies are a critical tool in managing IBD and being proactive about colon cancer screening, but they can be uniquely challenging for those living with Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis. By understanding the physical and emotional toll of these procedures, friends and family can provide better support and help ease the burden.
My ask for friends, family members, and medical professionals with patients or loved ones who have IBD and are undergoing or gone through a colonoscopy is to refrain from comparing your own experience with us. Show compassion. Be kind. Remember that colonoscopies carry a sense of trauma for many of us, and for good reason. We are not weak. We are not complainers. If you lived our reality and been through what we have, I guarantee it wouldn’t feel like a walk in the park. Not many 41-year-olds I know have had 10 colonoscopies. With patience, empathy, and practical assistance, you can make a difficult experience a little more manageable for someone with IBD.
I chose to blog and become a patient advocate for several reasons. I was tired of feeling isolated. I wanted to be a voice for the newly diagnosed, as well as the veteran patient. And, as a journalist, I’ve always had a love for the written word. For me—expressing myself through writing comes a lot easier than saying the words out loud.
In that time, I’ve shared 171 new articles (because some weeks I post on Mondays AND Wednesdays). Over the last three years, more than 105,000 people from around the world have checked out Lights, Camera, Crohn’s. Could the articles be organized better? Yes. Could the design be snazzier? Yes. But, my focus as an IBD blogger and advocate is to give you the nitty gritty. I’d rather spend my time and energy on content vs. design.
I took him into the vet and a chest x-ray showed he has congestive heart failure. The vet gave him a day to a year to live. When I saw the size of his enlarged heart in his tiny body, my heart sank. My world stopped. The tears flowed. And immediately, I felt my Crohn’s symptoms return.
As a mom of two and a wife, I know I need to reel it in and start coping so I don’t land myself in the hospital. But, the sadness, stress, and worry only feed my illness. What’s a girl to do? Whether you have a chronic illness or not—losing a four-legged family member is devastating and heart-wrenching.
Now, nearly 14 years later—her and I have come a LONG way. She’s on Remicade. I’m on Humira. We are both mothers. We are both wives. Alisa didn’t allow her disease to stop her from following her personal or professional dreams. In 2013, she left corporate America and founded 
I multi-task everything, stay on top of my biologic infusions, rest when possible and, plan my diet loosely around a mix of SCD and low gluten eating. Getting help is difficult, but I feel lucky to have a supportive husband and local family network. My travel schedule wears me down– but thankfully most of my disease symptoms are well controlled.
Babywearing helps me effectively multi-task and meet my all children’s needs at the same time. It also helps address postpartum depression, by syncing mother and baby, and raising oxytocin levels. I believe babywearing is a necessity that should be taught to every single expecting parent and caregiver!
As a bonus, a variety of baby carriers can be adjusted to accommodate an ostomy or j-pouch.
Find the people who lift you up. Trust in the bonds you create with those who are there for you because they want to be out of the goodness in their heart, not as an obligation. Hold on closely to the relationships that spark joy and don’t extinguish your flame. Lean on those who are willing to give you their hand to lift you up, even when you don’t ask for it.
I’m here to tell you that you are. I truly believe my vulnerability with my Crohn’s and how I deal with flare ups is a big part of why my husband fell in love with me. Chronic illness isn’t pretty. It forces you to see the world without rose-colored glasses. It makes you realize the importance of your health and how quickly it can be taken away from you.
Caregiving looks and means different things to everyone. It’s not just about being a caregiver in the hospital or at a nursing home. It’s taking care of the one(s) you love on a typical day at home. It can be something as simple as rubbing your back or taking care of the kids while you’re stuck in the bathroom. It can be dishing you out ice cream after you give yourself an injection. Or holding your hand on a walk outside following a hospitalization. It’s those caregiving moments in particular that remind me constantly of the everlasting love I’ve found and make me 100 percent positive we will make it through, for the rest of my life.
If you’re someone dealing with a disability/disease—don’t allow Dr. Phil’s ridiculously inaccurate comments make you think you aren’t worthy of love, because you are and always will be.
For me—the past nine months I’ve been incredibly grateful to have another healthy pregnancy, that silenced my Crohn’s symptoms. I’m also celebrating 3.5 years of no IBD-related hospitalizations or ER visits! The cherry on top was the release of Citrate-free (pain-free) Humira this year! After more than a decade of giving myself the painful injection, the new formula has greatly improved my patient experience.
Celebrate the feel-good days and soak up the moments where your IBD isn’t top of mind. You have an innate sense of when your body is giving you warning signs that rough waters are ahead. Be mindful of the inner conversation going on in your head and listen to your gut. Although it tends to be our nemesis, it has a way of alerting us when things are about to get out of our control.
Trust that those close to you love you and appreciate you for everything that makes you, you—including your disease. Show appreciation for your caretakers—those who live with you and are in the trenches by your side, day in and day out. Find comfort in those who allow you to be vulnerable when you need to be. Stop putting effort into relationships and friendships that don’t add joy to your life—eliminate the negativity, cut the fat, there’s no need for people who bring you down or belittle what it’s like to live with Crohn’s or ulcerative colitis.
She is a news reporter for a community television station in the Minneapolis/St.Paul area. Sonya is also a Crohn’s patient, diagnosed with the digestive disease in 1985 while she was in college. I’ll let her take it from here:
However, it took me a minute to adapt a positive inner attitude. You see, in public I put on a good, cheerful attitude. There were times when I wanted to crawl up into a big ball and shut out the world. The first few weeks of constantly wearing a backpack full of IV fluids were very hard. I did not like what I saw in the mirror. I was angry at my situation. It wasn’t until I visited a pediatric Crohn’s and Colitis Foundation support group that I changed my way of thinking. Seeing young people living with the digestive diseases, and going about their lives despite their circumstances, motivated me to do better.
It changed in a way that I never knew was possible. I have so many flashbacks of my journey with Humira. The tears as I felt sickly in my 20s sitting alone in my apartment and wondering why me. The dread, anxiety and anticipation every other Monday and the strength I had to muster up within myself to once again receive my medication. Holding the injection in my hand, getting in the zone and focusing my thoughts on brave family members and friends as I held down the plum colored button and felt the burn. The sad look on my son’s face as he looked in my eyes and witnessed his mama hurting.
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